EP 13: My Life After Betrayal - "Trust Issues"

#betrayal #infidelity #therapy #healing #relationships #trust #emotions #shame #personalgrowth #mentalhealth

Summary

In this conversation, Hayley Sarjeant shares her personal journey through betrayal and infidelity, discussing her life before the betrayal, the discovery of her ex-husband's infidelity, and the emotional turmoil that followed. She reflects on the red flags she missed, the process of forgiving both her ex-husband and herself, and how her experiences shaped her career as a therapist specializing in betrayal trauma. Hayley emphasizes the importance of self-trust, the impact of societal shame, and the differences in how men and women react to infidelity. She offers insights into healing and rebuilding trust after betrayal, encouraging listeners to validate their feelings and seek support.

Hayley’s Contact: https://sarjeantcounselling.com/
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Takeaways

Hayley graduated from university and pursued a master's to become a therapist.She took a year off to travel, which turned into five years.Her relationship with her ex-husband lasted about seven years.Suspicion of infidelity arose while living in Switzerland.She received warnings from friends about her husband's behavior.Her ex-husband confessed feelings for another person but claimed nothing happened.The relationship deteriorated with increased fighting and drinking.Hayley discovered the truth about the affair while visiting friends in France.She struggled with feelings of shock and disbelief after the betrayal.Forgiveness for her ex came easier than forgiving herself.

Sound bites
"Forgiveness is about acceptance.""You have to trust yourself again.""You are not crazy."

Chapters
00:00 The Impact of Betrayal on Relationships
02:11 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships
05:19 Processing Emotions After Betrayal
08:28 The Journey to Forgiveness
11:59 Becoming a Therapist Specializing in Betrayal
17:20 Understanding the Reasons Behind Infidelity
20:24 Understanding the Roots of Infidelity
21:35 Gender Differences in Reactions to Betrayal
24:39 The Burden of Shame in Betrayal
27:41 Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
29:56 Navigating the Aftermath of Betrayal
34:08 Life After Betrayal: A Personal Journey
37:28 Understanding Betrayal and Its Impact
38:27 The Journey of Healing After Betrayal