The Quiet Places Where Anorexia Meets Identity & Expression

This solo episode explores the quiet places where anorexia meets identity and expression. Dr. Marianne Miller speaks to the lived moments where someone learns to hide parts of themselves and how restriction becomes a language for survival. She examines how identity formation, self-expression, and body-based fear interact in ways that often remain hidden. The episode centers queer, trans, gender-expansive, and questioning listeners along with anyone who has felt pressure to quiet their identity in order to navigate the world. Dr. Marianne describes how anorexia rises when identity feels unsafe, unrecognized, or tightly controlled. She explains how restriction becomes a strategy to manage visibility, vulnerability, dysphoria, and the cultural pressure to stay small. The episode invites listeners to imagine recovery as a process of expanding expression, reclaiming autonomy, and restoring connection to their authentic self. Key Themes in This Episode Dr. Marianne examines the links between anorexia, identity, and self-expression. She describes how gender expectations and cultural norms shape the body story. She explains how queer and trans people often restrict to soften dysphoria or to quiet unwanted attention. She explores the way over-performance and people-pleasing silence authentic expression and strengthen restrictive behavior. She looks at the sensory landscape of anorexia and describes how neurodivergent experiences influence embodiment and identity. She also highlights the role of intersectionality. Race, culture, queerness, disability, and body size shape how someone expresses themself and how safe that expression feels. These intersections help explain why anorexia often becomes a predictable response to environments that restrict identity or punish authenticity. Why This Episode Matters Mainstream conversations about anorexia often focus on food without addressing identity, expression, and cultural pressure. Many listeners learn early that their identity takes up too much space. Many learn that desire, gender expression, and emotional truth need to stay hidden. This episode challenges the idea that anorexia develops inside a vacuum. Instead, it shows how anorexia forms inside relationships, systems, and environments that silence real expression. The episode offers validation for anyone who felt forced to shrink in order to stay safe. It expands the understanding of anorexia so listeners can see their experiences reflected with accuracy, compassion, and liberation. Who This Episode Supports This episode supports listeners who navigate anorexia while holding queer, trans, or gender-expansive identities. It supports people who experience identity suppression or dysphoria and who use restriction to manage that conflict. It supports neurodivergent listeners whose sensory experiences shape their relationship with their body and their identity. It also supports clinicians, loved ones, and community members who want a more accurate and compassionate understanding of anorexia. Resources Mentioned Liberation-based healing models Trauma-informed care Queer embodiment research Neurodivergent eating disorder literature Content Caution This episode discusses anorexia, restrictive eating, identity conflict, gender dysphoria, sexuality, sensory overwhelm, and the lived experience of shrinking to stay safe. Please listen with care and pause whenever your body needs space. Related Episodes Queer Mental Health & Eating Disorders: How Stress Shows Up in the Body & Brain With Winter Groeschl, NCC, LPC (@eatingdisorderrevealed): Apple & Spotify.LGBTQIA+, the Coming Out Process, & Eating Disorders: Apple & SpotifyLGBTQIA+ & Eating Disorders: Apple & Spotify Learn More and Get Support Dr. Marianne Miller provides therapy and coaching for anorexia, ARFID, binge eating disorder, bulimia, trauma, and body-based fear. She supports clients across California, Texas, Washington D.C., and internationally. Explore additional episodes of the Dr. Marianne Land podcast for conversations about eating disorder recovery, neurodiversity, identity, embodiment, and body liberation. Check out her website at drmariannemiller.com. Follow her on Instagram @drmariannemiller.