Ep #205 Uncertainty Tolerance

This week, I'm talking about one of the most important emotional skills we can build as parents. I call it Uncertainty Tolerance.

After a long Thanksgiving trip, a shut-down freeway, a surprise snowstorm, and a mountain of homemade pies, I found myself thinking about how much of parenting happens in the middle. The middle is the space where we have planted seeds and are waiting for results. The space where we want to feel calm and capable, but instead find ourselves worrying, predicting disaster, or questioning everything.

In this episode, I explore why our brains resist uncertainty and why we often reach for familiar failure instead of sitting with the possibility that things might turn out well. I share how this shows up with toddlers, tweens, and teens. I walk you through real examples from Target tantrums to bedtime battles to teenage eye rolls and explain how to anchor yourself so that you can stay present and connected instead of reactive.

Here is what I cover in this episode:

What Uncertainty Tolerance Is

The ability to remain steady in the in-between space between what you want and when the results actually show up, without collapsing or quitting or rushing into negative predictions.

Why Our Brains Crave Certainty

A look at how the human brain tries to avoid the unknown by assuming the worst, and how this habit affects the way we interpret our child’s behavior.

Why You Cannot Rely on Your Child for Certainty

Children cannot regulate themselves for us. Their moods, reactions, and choices cannot be our source of stability. We learn to create certainty in ourselves.

What You Can Be Certain Of

Your heart is good.
Your love is real.
Your intention is strong.
Your presence matters.
Your influence is greater than you think.
And you can learn anything you need to learn.

How to Stay Grounded Through Meltdowns and Pushback

I share specific examples from everyday parenting moments and show you how to remain steady even when you do not know what comes next.

The Identity Shift That Changes Everything

The grounding thought that can help you stay centered in any hard moment is this: "I am okay even if this does not work right away. My child is okay even if this does not work right away."

This is not resignation. It is leadership. It is connection in action. It is the practice of trusting development more than daily behavior.

Uncertainty is not a sign that you are doing anything wrong. It is an invitation to grow. You are becoming more emotionally grounded, more connected, and more confident with every messy moment you stay present for. You are doing beautiful work, even when you cannot see the results yet.

Thank you for listening and for showing up for your children in ways that no one sees. You matter. Your work matters. And I believe in the direction you are heading.

Now go connect your face-off with your kiddos, and I will see you next time.

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