Eps 135 - “Help Me Understand”: The Simple Phrase That Prevents Relationship Rupture

In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton explore one of the most powerful—and underestimated—tools for emotional intelligence and healthy relationships: the phrase “Help me understand.”

Drawing from real moments with kids, partners, and everyday home life, Ash shares how this one sentence can dissolve assumptions, regulate reactivity, and repair years of feeling misunderstood—especially for neurodivergent kids and adults. Dave adds his perspective on triggers, self-awareness, and how to hold space for curiosity even when your nervous system is activated.

This conversation is warm, honest, and deeply practical—an invitation to slow down, ask before assuming, and choose connection over conflict.

• Why “help me understand” interrupts spiraling assumptions

• How this phrase transforms communication with neurodivergent kids

• The difference between reacting, projecting, and responding

• Emotional intelligence: awareness, regulation, social awareness & relationship management

• How tone, physiology, and intention matter more than the words

• Breaking generational patterns of yelling, blame, and character shaming

• Modeling triggers, repair, and emotional safety for children

• Where do you tend to assume intent instead of asking for clarity?

• What happens in your body when you’re triggered—and how can you pause before reacting?

• How might using “help me understand” change your relationships at home or work?

  
  

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