Stop Explaining Yourself: How to Choose Your Own Experience After Divorce

What happens when you finally step away from the noise long enough to hear your own thoughts again?

In this Season 11 opener of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica — founder, coach, and creator of the No.vember Challenge — returns from a 10-day unplugged retreat in the Colorado mountains with three life-shifting lessons for women navigating divorce, healing, boundaries, and self-leadership.

These are the truths that help you choose yourself, protect your energy, and walk away from anything that no longer supports your growth.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• You are always in charge of your own experience — even when life feels chaotic.

• Protect someone else’s joy without abandoning your own needs.

• Honor your energy by stepping back without guilt or over-explaining.

• Leaving misaligned rooms is one of the most loving acts of self-respect.

• Boundaries are about your actions, not someone else’s behavior.

• Saying “no” creates the space for your “hell yes” life.

• • Your healing reshapes the spaces, relationships, and opportunities you choose.

  
  

  ⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 00:00 Intro

• 01:00 Lessons from unplugging in the mountains

• 03:00 You are in charge of your own experience

• 06:00 Choosing empowerment instead of blame

• 08:00 Protecting joy and not raining on someone else’s parade

• 10:00 Honoring your energy and giving yourself space

• 12:00 The birth of the No.vember Challenge

• 15:00 Leaving rooms and relationships that no longer serve you

• 18:00 Boundaries, emotional capacity, and real self-leadership

• 22:00 Knowing when it’s time to go

• 27:00 Turning the everyday into hell-yes moments

  
  

  🌟 Resources & Links

  Join the No.vember Challenge
  A free 5-day challenge for women ready to stop people-pleasing, protect their energy, and say no without guilt.
  One simple challenge each day. Under 5 minutes. Massive shifts.
  Say no. Reclaim your time. Become Her.
  👉 https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/november

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  Ready to say no without guilt?
  👉 Join the free No.vember Challenge today.

  👉 ⁠https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/november⁠