The Paternal Instinct: Foundational or Fabricated?

Today we are going to dive deep into the origins of fatherhood and what it was designed to be. We’re also going to explore how fatherhood is connected to identity and purpose.My guest is my pastor Meshach Faaeteete. Pastor Faaeteete is husband and a father of two boys. He is passionate about helping men connect with their true God given identity and purpose.You can connect with pastor Meshach Faaeteete at:Phone: [phone]Email: [e-mail] thanks to Smile Online Course & Books for sponsoring this episode. To learn more visit: https://thefatherhoodchallenge--smileteenskills.thrivecart.com/social-career-skills-accelerator/Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastrhttps://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallengeTranscript:00:16.58Jonathan GuerreroToday we're going to dive deep into the origins of fatherhood and what it's designed to be. We're also going to explore how fatherhood is connected to identity and purpose in just a moment. So don't go anywhere.00:29.12Jonathan GuerreroGreetings, everyone. Thank you so much for joining me in this episode called The Paternal Instinct, Foundational or fabric Fabricated. My guest is Pastor Mishak Faitete. Pastor Faitete is not only a pastor, but a husband and a father of two boys.00:43.49Jonathan GuerreroHe is passionate about helping men connect with their true God-given identity and purpose. Pastor Faitete, welcome to the Fatherhood Challenge.00:53.60MeshachThank you. Glad to be here.00:56.60Jonathan GuerreroOkay, my favorite question of all, what is your favorite dad joke?01:01.48MeshachFavorite dad joke. Okay. um So it goes, my wife complains that I don't buy her flowers. To be honest, I didn't know she sold them.01:14.53MeshachThat's all I got.01:18.20Jonathan Guerreroah That's perfect. All right. Well, this episode is going to go a little deep. So, so we'll not waste any more time. So let's dive in. Let's start with your story about the moment you became a father for the first time.01:32.21Jonathan GuerreroWere you scared, excited, both? What thoughts ran through your mind?01:38.48MeshachYes, so I both, I was both scared and excited. i was excited because having a child was something my wife and I ah really wanted. and We had been praying for some time for it.01:51.99MeshachBut I was also scared for a number of reasons. For one, having a child, another life, another life, in my, as part of my responsibility to nurture and raise, that task seemed pretty pretty big task. And so that that scared me at first. Another thing I was scared about was before my firstborn, Niles, we had experienced a pretty heartbreaking miscarriage.02:24.03MeshachAnd that one was, it was, I think, the I forgot which one of the first checkups that we had and it was going to be the one with the ultrasound where we could see the baby and when we looked, there was no baby and we had already told our families and so that that one was that experience was pretty heartbreaking. And so I was fearful of like, what if this happens again or something like that? So I'm fearful for for us and and especially for my wife.02:57.75MeshachI didn't want to see her heartbroken in in that sense too. So yeah, I was both scared and excited. ah Thoughts running through my mind.03:11.10Meshachum When my my firstborn came, which is Niles, When he was born, i was I had to go home to get food.03:23.32Meshachum He was born like around midnight in Niles, Michigan. And ah the the nurses had stated that they only had food for my wife, but for me, and this was a whole day of ah delivery. So I went home and as I went home, I remember my child was already born probably about an hour or two before.03:46.10MeshachAnd it was it was kind of this weird thought. Like, I checked the house to see if everything was okay, like clean and stuff. And it was a strange experience because it's like I was cleaning the house for a guest because someone that we've never had at home. But this wasn't just any guest. This was my son. So I still have trouble explaining that. But, yeah, um I remember that running through my head. Like, oh, man, is everything okay for our son when he comes home? It's like preparing for a guest. But, no, this is this is your child.04:15.16MeshachSo, yeah.04:18.38Jonathan GuerreroYeah. ah As you were describing this, it was taking me back to my own experience. i I still remember the day that we took our son home from the hospital. And actually, it was just me. um my My wife had to stay behind um for for just a little bit. So I went home first. so and And so I had my son and in the back, and I'm driving the van, and it's just me and him.04:47.20MeshachYeah.04:47.23Jonathan GuerreroAnd I still remember it was nighttime and I had a classical music station on to help him sleep. And in that calm, all kinds of thoughts ran through my mind.05:00.82Jonathan GuerreroEverything was a mixture of both excitement and ah a little bit of maybe healthy fear ah of what was what was ahead.05:00.90MeshachYeah...