Episode 25: Are You Using Gratitude to Avoid Hard Emotions Without Realizing It?

This week, Kendra and Katie unpack a quiet but common struggle among physician spouses:
the belief that gratitude and dissatisfaction can't coexist.

We explore:

• Why so many physician spouses downplay their hard moments

• The "gratitude as gaslighting" trap

• How privilege guilt + comparison silence our real needs

• A simple AND vs BUT framework to spot healthy vs harmful gratitude

• How to hold emotional complexity without minimizing yourself

• Four questions to help you take action instead of staying stuck

• Why acknowledging what's hard is not selfish—but essential for thriving

Key Takeaway:
You can be grateful and want change. You can love your life and need more support.
Both things can be true.

Resources Mentioned

• "It Gets Better Now" Coaching with Kendra

• Supporting Physician Spouses Community + Podcast Archive

• 10-10-10: A Life-Transforming Idea — Suzy Welch

• Artful TV series (BYUtv)