The Dynamics of Couple Friendships

Lots of people tell me they want couple friendships – you know, those picture-perfect foursomes you see in movies, where everybody gets along effortlessly.

Here’s the truth: couple friendships are complex! Why? Because you’re not just making friends couple-to-couple. You’re actually building FOUR SEPARATE FRIENDSHIPS at the same time.

My husband and I have lots of couple friendships – probably more than 20 – and they range from old friends to new friends, close friends to casual friends. Some we might have over for dinner, some we travel and spend holidays with.

This episode covers the real dynamics of couple friendships: what makes them work, what complicates them, and how to strengthen them over time.

In this episode you’ll hear about:

• The different dynamics to manage in couple friendships, including individual friendships in the couple and the dynamics when all four are together
• Being aware and respectful of the different levels of closeness within the group; it might be a combination of present friends, historic friends, familiar friends, etc.
• How to find couple friends, from leaning into existing friendships to meeting new people in your community
• Navigating complications with couple friendships, from life changes (a move or the introduction of kids) to divorce

Resources & Links

Listen to Episode 28 about adult slumber parties with Dr. Erika Michalski.

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