Outgrowing Porn: Healing Hearts and Redeeming Sexuality with Drew Boa

✨ Episode Summary
In this groundbreaking episode of the Faithful Fitness Podcast, Coach Alex sits down with Drew Boa—author of Outgrow Porn and founder of Husband Material Ministries—to tackle one of the most hidden yet destructive struggles in the Church today: pornography.

Drew combines neuroscience, psychology, and biblical truth to offer a message of hope far beyond “try harder” strategies and purity culture. Together, Alex and Drew explore how porn is not simply a moral issue but a sexualized solution to unprocessed pain—and how healing, maturity, and God’s grace provide the true path to freedom.

This episode will challenge you, encourage you, and equip you (or someone you love) to walk in freedom, heal from shame, and redeem sexuality under the Lordship of Christ.

📌 Main Discussion Themes
-Why fitness, sexuality, and stewardship are inseparably linked
-The difference between arousal and desire—and why it matters
-Porn as a pacifier: a counterfeit solution to unprocessed pain
-How shame becomes toxic—and how bringing it into the light disarms it
-The failure of “purity culture” vs. the grace-driven process of healing
-Practical tools for moving past porn and into deeper connection with God and others
-The Church’s calling to reclaim sexual wholeness and disciple future generations

🕒 Timestamped Outline
00:00 – Alex’s introduction and framing: What does porn have to do with fitness?
06:40 – Drew shares about fitness, music, and life in Colorado Springs
08:30 – Introducing Drew Boa: author, podcaster, and Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional
10:15 – Why porn affects stewardship of the body and faith
12:00 – Sexuality as blessing and boundaries: fire in the fireplace analogy
14:30 – Fighting waves vs. riding them: how to deal with sexual energy
17:20 – Why Outgrow Porn is different from other books on the subject
19:10 – Porn as a “sexualized solution to unprocessed pain”
23:30 – The pacifier metaphor: outgrowing childish solutions
27:20 – Fitness metaphor: “try harder” vs. healing foundations
29:40 – Purity culture’s failures and the need for compassion
31:15 – The shame cycle and how healing begins with safe connection
36:00 – Shame: when it’s healthy, when it’s toxic, and how to bring it into light
42:30 – Accessibility of Drew’s writing: practical tools, not academic jargon
44:50 – Head to heart to gut: integrating all of yourself in healing
46:50 – Drew’s hope for the Church: not just avoiding lust, but learning love
50:20 – On offense: the Church storming the gates of hell
52:10 – Porn as spiritual warfare—and how Christ meets us with compassion
54:20 – Drew’s final words: “Always remember, you are God’s beloved son”
55:20 – Alex closes in prayer over Drew, his work, and listeners

🚀 Move Forward Today
-Grab Coach Alex's devotional: Faithful Fitness – A 40-Day Devotional for Christian Health and Stewardship → https://Faithfulfitnessdevo.com
-Join the Better Daily Community → https://betterdaily.live/invite
-Get Drew’s Book: Outgrow Porn – download the free first chapter and begin your healing journey.
-Join Husband Material: Explore Drew’s coaching, groups, and retreats at husbandmaterial.com.
-Bring Shame into the Light: Share this episode with a trusted friend, group, or pastor—and start the conversation.
-Remember: True fitness includes stewarding every part of your body, mind, and spirit.

📚 Featured Guest Resources
-Book: Outgrow Porn – Drew Boa
-Podcast: Husband Material Podcast
-Website: drewboa.com
-Ministry: husbandmaterial.com

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