To Set a Curfew… or Not? Parenting Teens and Boundaries

Should parents set a curfew for their teens—or is it better to allow for more flexibility? And if setting a curfew, what is the “right” time for teens to be home? In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron unpack one of the most common questions parents face about raising teenagers: when, why, and how to set curfews.

They discuss the benefits of curfews—providing structure, ensuring safety, and helping teens develop responsibility—while also considering the challenges, including power struggles, and the ability for teens to call and text ready to negotiate. The episode also dives into what parents should do when teens repeatedly break curfew, and how to use these moments as opportunities to teach accountability instead of fueling endless confrontations.

Together, Dr. Allen and Dr. Caron explore:

• The crucial elements for raising a teen
• Why curfews can support safety and responsibility
• How to make a curfew work for your family and teen
• Balancing independence with structure as teens grow
• How to handle repeated curfew-breaking
• Using curfews as a tool for communication and care, not control

Here are some highlights from this episode:

• 00:00 – Should Parents Set Curfews for Teens… or Not?
• 03:20 – Building the Foundation of a Healthy Parent–Teen Relationship
• 04:34 – What Curfews Are Really About
• 05:24 – The Key Benefits of Setting Curfews
• 07:41 – Thinking About Curfews as a Helpful Guideline
• 08:48 – When Teens Push Back Against Boundaries
• 10:48 – Do Curfews Actually Work for Every Teen?
• 11:32 – Why Parenting Is Never One-Size-Fits-All
• 12:22 – Practical Tips for Setting a Teen Curfew
• 15:26 – The Importance of Clear Expectations
• 17:07 – Flexibility in Parenting: Loosening or Tightening Limits
• 17:29 – What to Do When Teens Break Curfew
• 21:42 – How to Respond If Curfew Is Broken Repeatedly
• 23:14 – What If Your Teen Refuses to Follow Curfew?
• 26:51 – One Crucial Step to Check Before Setting a Curfew

If you’ve ever questioned whether curfews really work—or worried about how to enforce one without damaging your relationship—this episode will give you practical, research-based strategies to set boundaries while keeping trust and connection strong.

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