Episode 244 - Pulling Back Isn’t Power

Everyone says it: “Pull back your energy. Let them miss you. Stay silent and they’ll value you more.” It’s the advice plastered across TikTok, Instagram, and dating podcasts. But what if that’s not power — what if it’s avoidance?

In this episode of You’re Probably Right with MCM, I challenge the popular mantra of withdrawing your presence as a strategy in relationships. If you feel like a backup option, you don’t need silence or games — you need communication. Real confidence isn’t disappearing to test someone; it’s speaking honestly, even if your voice shakes.

We break down why emotional withdrawal isn’t strength, how uncertainty doesn’t create value, and why clarity beats scarcity-driven tricks every time. If you’re tired of gimmicky relationship advice and want real talk about respect, connection, and maturity, this episode is for you.

👉 Keywords: relationship advice, dating podcast, pull back energy, communication vs silence, backup option, emotional maturity, stop playing games, self-worth, You’re Probably Right Podcast, MCM

📌 Time-Stamped Show Notes

• 00:01 – Why silence has been sold as “power” in modern dating advice

• 02:00 – Why pulling back often feels unnatural and manipulative

• 05:15 – Since when did emotional withdrawal become strength?

• 06:00 – The real alternative: speaking up without drama or games

• 07:45 – Why tricking someone into caring always backfires

• 10:45 – Point 1: Pulling back isn’t power, it’s fear in disguise

• 13:45 – Point 2: Uncertainty doesn’t equal value in relationships

• 17:00 – Point 3: Communication is the real test of maturity

• 20:20 – Point 4: Withholding is a game, not a standard

• 22:00 – Point 5: If they only want you when you disappear, that’s a red flag

• 24:00 – Point 6: Your energy isn’t a weapon — stop using it as leverage

• 25:50 – Point 7: You’re not a backup, so don’t act like one

• 27:30 – Closing reflection: why honesty beats avoidance every time