🎙️Whole-Person Relationships: How Self-Love and Identity Shape Connection | Toby Whittington

In this episode of The Resilience Movement, I’m joined by Toby Whittington – an advocate, academic, and coach whose diverse life experience has shaped his powerful work in relational wellness. With over three decades of self-employment across creative, charitable, and sustainability-focused industries, Toby’s journey took a deeply personal turn following his diagnosis with Klinefelter’s Syndrome (47 XXY). Rather than viewing this as a limitation, Toby reframed his experience into a path of self-acceptance, later embracing his identity as a proud intersex person.

Today, he’s an accredited sexologist, a relationship coach, and a master’s student in counselling, using both lived and scholarly insight to guide others in forming Whole-Person Relationships.

We explore:

✨ What it means to be in a Whole-Person Relationship – and why this framework is vital in today’s disconnected world

✨ How Toby’s diagnosis became a catalyst for deeper self-love, identity integration, and emotional resilience

✨ The limiting beliefs many carry around love, intimacy, and identity – and how Toby has challenged these, personally and professionally

✨ How trauma-informed coaching, academic theory, and real-world experience combine to support healing in relationships

✨ Why vulnerability is not a weakness, but a bridge to deeper connection with oneself and others

✨ Practical advice for those beginning their own journey toward relational authenticity and self-trust

This conversation is rich in insight for anyone navigating personal reinvention, emotional healing, or seeking a more compassionate approach to connection. Whether you're beginning your healing journey or a seasoned practitioner looking to deepen your understanding of relational dynamics, Toby offers a grounded and integrative perspective that blends academic rigor with human warmth. 🔗 To connect with Toby or learn more about his work, you can find him at https://www.whole-person-relationships.com/ 🧡 As always, thank you for listening to The Resilience Movement. If this episode resonates with you, please leave a review and share it with someone you care about.

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