What Soft Porn Can Teach Us About Courage, Judgment and Finding Yourself: Chasing Curiosity and Sharing Boundless Insights from Ideas that Matter

Today we talk to PrettyLynne, and in case you hadn’t guessed - that’s not her real name. You see Lynne writes and records erotic fiction and for reasons we’ll get into, she’s asked that we keep her identity secret.

Lynne describes herself as a Gen Xer in her second act who stumbled into the world of erotic fiction during a period of personal transition. What she found was freedom, a creative outlet that has helped her reconnect with herself - and as it turns out, a growing audience of women and men also hungry for connection.

When I was introduced to Lynne through a mutual friend, I was excited to explore this idea that we all have sides of ourselves that we keep hidden for fear of what people will think. And yes, the opportunity to talk about this through the lens of soft porn, is one I could not pass up. But this conversation was so much more than that. I don't know what I was expecting - Letters to Penthouse from my youth (if you don’t know what this is, look it up but please - use Incognito mode). Much like Lynne’s writing, this conversation was beautiful, vulnerable and nuanced. Lynne opens up about how her writing has helped her better understand herself, be more confident and find a creative voice she had lost.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, like you have more to offer the world and you just need a place to start - this conversation is for you. As Lynne says - no feeling is final. Keep creating. Let yourself be surprised by what emerges.

Please enjoy, Pretty Lynne.

Links & Resources

PrettyLynne on Literotica: https://www.literotica.com/authors/Prettylynne

PrettyLynne on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/Prettylynne23/

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Key Takeaways:

• Lynne began writing and recording erotic fiction during a challenging period in her life and found it to be both healing and creatively fulfilling.
• Erotic fiction isn’t just about sex—Lynne’s work explores intimacy, grief, desire, and human connection in beautifully written short stories.
• The genre is often misunderstood or dismissed, but it offers a powerful, judgment-free space for people to explore their own emotional and sexual landscapes.
• Writing in this format has helped Lynne reconnect with her creative voice and build trust in her own judgment—something many of us struggle with.
• Despite writing in the first person, Lynne is creating fiction, not memoir—and the distinction is important, especially when it comes to parasocial relationships.
• She resists turning her passion into a business, intentionally keeping it something that brings joy and personal meaning, rather than pressure.
• Lynne’s process is intuitive and nonlinear—she writes on her phone, captures ideas when they strike, and lets the stories come to her without overthinking.
• One of the most powerful lessons she’s learned: no feeling is final. Keep going. Keep creating. Let yourself be surprised by what emerges.

Every other week, join your host Bob Mathers, keynote speaker for conversations designed to push you out of your comfort zone. Each episode delivers boundless insights and ideas that matter by inspiring you to get off autopilot and keep chasing curiosity.