YOU CAN'T HURT ME

Because I Can Run Faster Than You

De: Glen Hadley

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

When Dr. Glen Hadley ran across a Denny's parking lot, through an Arby's drive-through, and into a field he didn't own, he didn't know he was developing a therapeutic framework. He thought he was having a bad Tuesday. He was right about the Tuesday. He was also, it turned out, right about the framework.

You Can't Hurt Me: Because I Can Run Faster Than You is a complete guide to emotional resilience for people who are done pretending that vulnerability is simple, healing is linear, and self-help books don't ask you to do embarrassing things in front of mirrors.

Dr. Hadley's Pursuit-Avoidance Model of Intimacy™ starts from a single honest observation: every person in relationship is simultaneously moving toward connection and away from the threat of it. The running is not the problem. The not-returning is the problem. And the return — to the room, to the relationship, to the conversation in the labeled folder — is always available.

Inside you will find: — The Pain Ledger™: a five-column accounting system for what was taken, what came back, and what exit was taken in between — The Brisk Walk of Dignity™: the fifth nervous system response (pace, posture, notional destination) — The Grievance Jar™: an honest look at the mental reservoir everybody has and nobody examines — The Forgiveness Ledger™: forgiveness as the deliberate withdrawal of the active claim — Mirror Affirmations for People Who Find Affirmations Embarrassing — The Growth Audit, the Preemptive Summary™, the Boundary Sprint™, and eleven other proprietary frameworks of varying clinical legitimacy

Dr. Hadley also addresses, by name, the people he has not fully forgiven, the conversation he has been not-having with his brother for nine years, and the specific parking lot where this all started.

Funny in the way that true things are funny. Honest in the way that funny things sometimes are. You Can't Hurt Me is the self-help book for people who have read the self-help books and are still in the car.