Attuned and Attached

Heal Your Relationship with Yourself and Others to Create Lasting Connections

De: Yolanda Renteria LPC NCC LPC NCC

An empathetic, accessible, research-backed guide to creating healthy, secure, attuned relationships by exploring the roots of your own emotional disconnection.

Not only is deep, meaningful connection with others something we yearn for, research shows that connection has profound effects on our overall health. Yet so many of us have feelings of loneliness and dissatisfaction with our personal relationships, feeling misattuned, misunderstood, or emotionally distant—and confused about why that may be.

In Attuned and Attached licensed professional counselor Yolanda Renteria shares practical strategies to help us take a deeper look at our current relationships and identify our emotional disconnections, which tend to present as hyper-indepdendence, perfectionism, difficulty taking accountability, people pleasing, and more.

Once we know our patterns, we can then:

• Identify safe people and healthy relationships
• Set realistic and healthy relationship expectations
• Repair relationships after a rupture or misattunement
• Develop resources to feel connected more often

By blending clinical research with her own experience of emotional disconnection, Yolanda invites the reader on a healing journey through understanding and validation. Emotional disconnection isn't wrong; it's caused by myriad factors throughout one's life. But there is a way forward. Yolanda’s work especially speaks to those who feel that they had a fine or “good enough” childhood, but still feel emotionally disconnected, lost, and unfilled in their relationships.

Whether you identify disconnection in yourself or in someone close to you, you will learn how to bring more safety and vulnerability into your relationships for nourishing, peaceful, and fulfilling connections.

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“Attuned and Attached is a compassionate and deeply grounding guide to understand how emotional disconnection often begins as survival—and how reconnection becomes possible. Yolanda Renteria weaves attachment theory and somatic wisdom without urgency or shame, honoring the body’s intelligence at every turn. This book is an invitation into relationships that feel safer, more honest, and more alive.”

—Dr. Jennifer Mullan, best-selling author of Decolonizing Therapy

“This book is for anyone who knows they want connection but can’t seem to stop keeping people at arm’s length. In Attuned and Attached, Yolanda Renteria offers a compassionate, research-backed road map to better understand why we disconnect and how we can build the safe, attuned relationships we actually deserve.”

—Whitney Goodman, LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity

“Attuned and Attached is a deeply accurate and helpful guide for anyone who wants to heal from the pain of insecure attachment experiences and learn how to build secure relationships now and in the future. A truly compassionate and accessible book that will change many lives for the better.”—Eli Hardwood, therapist, creator of Attachment Nerd, and author of Raising Securely Attached Kids and How to Deal With Your ____ So Your Kids Don’t Have To

“This book is an essential and compassionate guide to recognize and heal the patterns that keep us disconnected from others. Yolanda offers both professional insight and earned wisdom to shine a light on the roots of emotional disconnection and help us form fulfilling and securely attached relationships.”—Diane Poole Heller, PhD, author of The Power of Attachment, Healing Your Attachment Wounds, and Crash Course

“Yolanda Renteria digs into the core of our individual and collective mis-attunement; she shows us how to identify our emotional ruptures and then develop healthy boundaries and secure connections for loving, lasting relationships.”—Dr. Sara Kuburic, author of It’s on Me

“We’ve all heard about attachment styles, but knowing your type doesn’t translate to feeling safe in your body or feeling close to others. Attuned and Attached is the missing guide for anyone who wants connection but struggles with letting people in. Finally, a book that translates knowledge into felt experience!”—Amanda E. White, LPC, author of Not Drinking Tonight