Actually, It Is All About Me

How Being Selfish Can Actually Be Selfless

De: Nick Bowditch

Narrado por: Nick Bowditch

Duración: 3 h y 12 m

Resumen del Editor

In his second book Actually, It Is All About Me, Nick Bowditch discusses the importance of putting yourself first in both mind and body. Nick talks openly and honestly about his mental health issues and how they affect where he puts himself on the ladder of needs (usually near or at the bottom when he is struggling and closer to the top when he is going well).

"When I am low, I can quickly spiral into a self-pity cycle that usually ends up in me lashing out, or acting out, in order to make myself feel better or make someone else feel worse. Just as easily, though, when I am low I can slip into a desire to act submissively and relegate myself down the rungs of importance in my own thinking. I can assure myself that even if I am no good, worthless or unlovable at the moment (all mostly lies that I tell myself when my mental health isn't as good as it could be), I can still make sure everyone else is flying. I can devote my time to making sure everyone else is getting everything they need, while parking my own needs and wants almost entirely.

"But when I am going well, and my mental health is closer to the best it can be, I can see that I do deserve some attention and love and respect - and not the least some self-love. I can see that I am worthy, lovable and important. And I can start to place my needs back up near the forefront of my thinking, instead of submitting and concentrating on everyone else's."

Actually, It Is All About Me looks at how to completely change our thinking so that our own needs are the most important. How to see what it is that stops us, and has historically always stopped us, from putting ourselves first. How to see the difference between selfishness and selflessness, and how we are the ones responsible for our own happiness. How to see how we can heal the trauma and disappointments of our childhoods, and see what we are truly capable of.

©2018 Nick Bowditch (P)2018 Nick Bowditch

Nicks done the work, so you can access the info you need for your recovery. Great for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families.

I loved the simple language and Nicks wisdom and perspective from his lived experience of recovery. Nick effectively and entertainingly sheds light on valuable information that has for me, can for you, transform your relationship with yourself and the quality of life for yourself and those around you. Listen to it. It’s quick, digestible and if you are ready, will make your life better than it is now. I have read many books on the same topics and this is the most concise introduction that not only informs but because it’s not just theory, but loved.. makes it real.

A rare gift.. seeing and hearing first hand someone with Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) master how to manage ones own life and the import role as Parent when living with ACE / Trauma / Co-dependence / Complex PTSD et al.

Give to much, always 2nd. READ THIS BOOK.

More mental abuse than physical for this guy, but this book answered so many of my questions as to why I am the way i am. I had to find an author in Australia to address my over selflessness in America. I guess America doesn't need any lessons on how to be selfish and self serving.

save your money and your time

this is a pretty worthless self help book. it's just taking stuff from other books, and putting it in his own stuff. the best part of the book is probably the beginning, where he says you are not required to set yourself on fire because others are cold. however this is not his quote it is from someone else as well.