3000 Orgasms

What would happen if a woman stopped waiting for intimacy to “come back” — and decided to design it instead?

After two sexless years at the end of her marriage, Rebecca Ferguson made a radical decision. She stopped outsourcing her pleasure. She stopped shrinking her desires. And she began a year-long experiment in sexual self-reclamation that would change her body, her confidence, and her life forever.

3000 Orgasms is the bold, unfiltered true story of what happened next. It became an Amazon category bestseller at launch, outselling well-known sexuality authors such as Esther Perel and Emily Nagoski. Rebecca's Substack has become the go-to guide for people seeking an expansive vision for their sex lives.

Part memoir, part sexual empowerment guide, and part data-driven exploration of female pleasure, this book documents Rebecca’s intentional journey back to desire. By tracking her intimate experiences, tuning into her body, and prioritising pleasure as a non-negotiable form of self-care, she achieved more than a headline-grabbing number. She reclaimed agency, confidence, and emotional connection: on her own terms.

This is not erotica. Nor is it shallow “sex tips” either.

In the tradition of Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, and Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston, 3000 Orgasms blends lived experience with psychology, embodiment, communication skills, and reflective exercises, written by a woman who has coached hundreds of others through desire, disconnection, and rediscovery.

Rebecca writes candidly about:

• Healing after a passionless marriage

• Reconnecting with desire after divorce or long-term emotional neglect

• Navigating sex, confidence, and pleasure through peri-menopause and post-menopause

• Letting go of shame, obligation, and performative intimacy

• Learning to communicate fantasies, boundaries, and needs with clarity

• Using mindfulness and intention to deepen arousal and emotional connection

Now post-menopausal, Rebecca’s story powerfully challenges the myth that passion has an expiry date. Her experience proves that pleasure is not something women “lose”: it’s something many were never taught to prioritise.

• Women rebuilding their sexual identity after divorce or long relationships

• Women navigating menopause, libido changes, or desire mismatch

• Anyone healing from a sexless or emotionally disconnected partnership

• Couples seeking to rekindle intimacy with honesty and confidence

• Readers of women’s self-help, sexual wellness, and human sexuality

What You’ll Learn

Create an Intimacy Vision
Clarify what fulfilling intimacy actually looks like for you, not what you were conditioned to accept.

Reclaim Pleasure as Self-Care
Understand pleasure as essential to resilience, mental health, and emotional wellbeing.

Practice Mindful Intimacy
Learn how presence, nervous-system regulation, and embodiment transform arousal.

Communicate Desire with Confidence
Practical frameworks for expressing needs, fantasies, and boundaries without shame.

Sustain Fulfilment Long-Term
How to keep intimacy alive as bodies, relationships, and life circumstances change.

This book refuses to sanitise women’s sexuality: and refuses to sensationalise it either. Rebecca’s combination of emotional honesty, humour, and analytical curiosity offers something rare: permission and practical tools.

At its heart, 3000 Orgasms is a declaration that women’s pleasure matters: not as performance, not as obligation, but as a powerful, life-affirming choice.