Download Audio Books from Audible.

Customer reviews

5 star		72%
4 star		19%
3 star		6%
2 star		1%
1 star		3%

How are ratings calculated?

Review this product

Top reviews from the United States

There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.

maria

Knowledgeable and wise author

Reviewed in the United States on September 10, 2020

Verified Purchase

I don’t write reviews often. Only when I feel the work truly deserves it, as is the case here. The writing is clear and well thought through. The author is both knowledgeable and wise, which is rare. Many authors can break down a topic by simply putting words on a page, but the books that move us and change us are the ones where the author speaks not only from the mind (knowledge of a topic) but also from the heart, from a place of wisdom and intuition.

I have been previously disheartened to read many books on the topic of emotional abuse and narcissism. While I know there are severely toxic dynamics out there, the majority of people experience boundary violation in much more subtle ways. I couldn’t relate to how many other authors approach the issue from a victim/abuser perspective. Many other books are passionately strong, I guess they have to be because some people are in harmful and toxic codependent relationships that they need to be shaken out of. But if like me, you can’t relate to the victim/abuser terminology, yet wish to improve your relationships with yourself and others (through empowerment of yourself and others), then you’ll love this book as much as I did!

Little Bear

A foundational take on boundaries

Reviewed in the United States on December 25, 2020

Verified Purchase

I've read a lot of books on boundaries over the years and this was a refreshing and empowering take on them - it was exactly the kind of book I was looking for after running into some confusing and frustrating snags in my attempts at saying no and establishing boundaries with others.

The author approaches the subject from a more foundational place, looking at what it is that you’re believing about yourself, others, and how relationships work. I appreciated the examples he provided throughout the book, especially when it comes to emotional boundaries and some of the other grey areas in interactions. I was having issues with some controlling people that justified violating my boundaries as being “helpful” or “wanting what’s best for me” and talking me out of them or telling me I was being selfish, difficult, over-sensitive, fearful, etc. I was also having difficulty since I had an unconscious and misplaced responsibility for other people’s feelings. The author touches on all of these things and I feel encouraged after reading this book to have respectful boundaries that suit me and to be able to stand my ground when others are pushing back or dismissing them.

I also appreciated that the author addressed how you can sometimes overcompensate loose boundaries for overly-rigid ones and end up feeling just as frustrated – he offers examples of how you can find a healthy balance. Finally, this book is well rounded since the author encourages some self-reflection as to how you may be stepping over others boundaries as well and not realizing it. He addresses this is a non-shaming manner and I felt encouraged to not only offer myself more respect and honor my limits and boundaries but to be able to offer the same to others at the same time.

If you’re looking for a book on boundaries that gets more to the root of your issues and provides an empowered approach to healthy relationships/interactions, I highly recommend this one!

Kindle Customer

Very helpful

Reviewed in the United States on September 13, 2020

Verified Purchase

I felt that the author not only explained what boundary issues are but have some tips for establishing healthy ones. I especially liked the chapter summary at the end of the book.

Kindle Customer

Highly recommended

Reviewed in the United States on October 20, 2020

Verified Purchase

With many years of self study and growth through reading and professional counseling; I’m going to recommend this book to my therapist! This is a reading that needs to be in the repertoire of every physiologist.

Kindle Customer

Very helpful!

Reviewed in the United States on December 31, 2020

Verified Purchase

This book really helped me to set a boundary with someone who was not respecting me,and wanted an intimate relationship that I did not desire. I did not want to be rude, and the book showed me that I needed to care for and respect myself first before the situation could be resolved! So grateful for the help.

Lionel Weathers

Great read. Solid information.

Reviewed in the United States on January 2, 2021

Verified Purchase

Great read. Simple to comprehend. Solid information. I'd recommend it to all who are motivated to improve on the way interact with others and gain a better understanding of themselves.

Charles

Great read

Reviewed in the United States on December 31, 2020

Verified Purchase

Reading this has helped me be more assertive about my boundaries.. I no longer light myself on fire to keep others warm... my life my control.

Merrijo

good book

Reviewed in the United States on February 13, 2021

Verified Purchase

good book. Easy read.

Top reviews from other countries

djk

Good book where motivation is needed; just a little repetitive

Reviewed in Canada on December 31, 2020

Verified Purchase

This is a good book if one needs to 'wake themselves up' from the stupor that their sacrificial life may have become. It is also written in a semi-compassionate way, recognizing that establishing boundaries, calmly and assuredly, will take time, particularly if yours have been trampled on so frequently and/or you were never taught how to establish them for yourself (no thanks in part to a lack of self-image and self-esteem). It does have some practical suggestions in how to interact with others, which is good, but it will take practice and time, and even enduring the loss of some relationships to do it (particularly with those who are used to your boundaries being porous). The one thing I wish the book did was to provide some illustrative case studies, and / or practice scripts for persons to use.

See all reviews