I heard about Go The Way Your Blood Beats, while reading the 5/19 Journal of Bisexuality. It won the Stonewall Book Award for nonfiction, by the American Library Assn, for 2019. I treasured reading this book. It was like meeting with an old friend, who knows you really well, through all your ups and downs. Timely and deeply conscious books about bisexuals are rare.
Like bisexuals themselves, the book is a bit confusing and meandering. Without any table of contents, chapters, or index, the text went from one subject to the next, just like bisexuals go from one partner to the next… without much direction. The commentary was appealingly interspersed with bittersweet personal stories about lovers… most all of whom seemed to be male.
Nonetheless, I was sorry when it ended. Reading this slim volume of 122 pages over 7 or 8 days, was like sitting with that friend, and talking about shared experiences, without hesitation, and with vulnerability. The author must be British, as most of the references were to British people and places. The book began with the controversy whether Tom Daley, the British Olympic diver, was gay or bi. Then comments by James Baldwin about sexuality, the Kinsey Scale, different orientations, commodification, binary (gay or straight) sexuality, Herbert Marcuse, and others, create a broad and rich collective of views of sexuality.
If I to write a sequel, I’d title it Go the Way of Deep Consciousness. I’d include text on relations with the opposite sex, relationship challenges, the pressure (including from therapists) to be gay, and are bi men just sex addicts?