This book is a collection of insights into and answers concerning the real challenges that face men in dealing with the loss of a child as related by the men who experienced it. If you've ever wondered if the feelings you're experiencing after losing your beloved child are "abnormal" you'll find answers to that question in the pages of this book. You'll find details about the range of emotions and feelings that men encounter upon the loss of a child. More importantly you'll find answers to the questions "are my feelings normal", "do I need help to deal with this grief" and "how can I get help to deal with this grief". While written from the perspective of the men who lost their children, the discussion is relevant to anyone struggling to make sense of their loss and their emotions.
My boyfriend lost his son last year and periodically he will pick this up and read it. I also read it so I would know what to expect and also know what he would be reading so we could discuss if needed. I believe it has helped him even though there are still some very rough periods.
Kelly, through the horrible journey of losing two children, and with stories by other dads dealing with similar tragedies, puts into words the challenges men have grieving. As a dad who lost his son nearly ten years ago, the stories touch my soul. I've had the book since Kelly wrote it, Burie couldn't find the strength to read it until now. Great job discussing incredibly difficult subject matter.
This book is terrific. It touches on so many emotions and feelings that father's have when you lose a child. As men, we want to and are expected to be strong through this horrible ordeal. Yet, we have such turmoil ourselves as to the how's, why's and what's that we need to sort through these emotions and figure it all out so we can get our life and our families lives back on track. The author gives us the insight into why we feel the way we do and how to cope with this loss over the long and short term. We aren't alone in this.
This book was helpful to me as I have recently lost my newborn daughter. It gave me "permission" to grieve in a way that works for me and helped to confirm that many of my thoughts and feelings weren't crazy as the author himself has lost and he includes many testimonies of fellow fathers who have lost as well. The content of the book is definitely "heavy", especially if you yourself have not lost a child, but if you're a man dealing with this tremendous burden, this will definitely help you as you bear it.
I have read many books on grief and healing, but Kellys book, WOW... for a dad its speaks volumes.. I have met many grieving fathers and most of them dont say much. And we know why, society and how they deem men should be, I know Im not one to bend to its will, and Ill cry in public if the sadness over my son hits me, I dont care what anyone around me thinks and if they come up and ask if Im ok, Ill tell them the truth, NO.. Im crying over my son that died... Its been a blessing so far reading this book, its RAW, guy wrenching to read, Ive cried so many times already reading about these other fathers and how they lost their children, but as tough as it it, it is eye opening, inspiring and has encouraged me to keep writing... If you are a father that has lost a child read this book. Moms if your struggling relating with your husband, cause those of us that have been through this knows we each grieve differently, please read this book.... and if your a friend of someone that lost a child and your lost want to say or want to help them and not sure how, read this book for tons of insight.... A powerful book of love, grief and overcoming the many things the grief over losing a child can bring you too... like it says To the Brink and Back!!
As a fellow grieving dad (my 7 year old son Dylan will have passed away 5 years ago this week), I looked forward to reading this book. Similar to the author, I also found very little information out there that focuses on the father's grief and our unique struggle with what we are to consider normal behavior. Fathers are typically expected to be the strong ones and provide support. The loss of a child is not something anyone can "get over" or, "move on" from - it's simply not possible, even for the strongest of men. I recently finished reading the book and can honestly say, for me, it delivers spot on. This very well written book certainly provides the perspective, hope, and tools, grieving fathers need and yearn for. The poignant stories shared within will provide both new and long term grieving Dad's comfort in knowing they are not alone or, have to be alone, in suffering the brutal, indescribable pain [shock and awe] of losing a child. The book provides real hope that this is survivable. The book goes on to provide a multitude of real life tools (suggestions) on what may help in getting you "back from the brink". Finally, the book provides great perspective on the thoughts and struggles unique to grieving Dad's. I suggest, grieving Mom's, girlfriends, and other family members, will find this book helpful in understanding the unique thoughts and struggles grieving dads endure. I highly recommend this book to any grieving dad and any grieving dad's loved one. Matter of fact, I already purchased another copy to give to a fellow grieving dad and look forward to giving it to him. Thank you for writing this book Kelly.
All though I never heard my story per say I appreciated hearing about the others. So much of what the other Dads are feeling I'm am also as Dad and Grandfather. It's only a little over 3 months since I lost my son and I have a long way to go but this book is going to help me. Thank you Kelly for writing it for me and all the other Dads.