Its obvious this book is a must read for today's women, who are seeking ways to thrive, but I HIGHLY recommend this book for the men - husbands, dads and male leaders. As I read this book, I've gained empathy and a new perspective I only sensed before but didn't quite understand completely until Tiffany made it clear for me. I now have a new lens for what my wife has done and is doing, to be an amazing wife, mother and career professional. Despite already being a proud and 'active' dad, I now understand her challenges and am attempting to step up to the plate and do more, to allow more balance in our marriage and parental roles, and to allow her an opportunity to be all she can be. Thanks, Stephen H.
A lightbulb went off after I read this book > I realized two major things. 1) even though my husband and I were splitting up to-dos, they all still remained on my mental to-do list. and that means they're still on my plate 2) yes there will be some mothers who make the cutest valentine's day cards for the class that you're jealous of - and if they love to do that and get joy from it, all the power to them. but before you fall into the mommy guilt trap, ask your kids what's more important to them. to have homemade, perfect valentine's cards to hand out? or to spend time together playing a board game or watching his soccer game? we make assumptions about what being a good mom/wife/worker is about without taking a step back and asking what really matters to our family. once you do that, you have the incredible freedom and power to drop the ball.
After getting through the first third of the book which was not that relatable to me because I'm not an obsessive perfectionist like the author, the book got better because she gave explicit information on how she changed up the division of labor in her home to kick ass in her career. I would recommend this book to other mothers with careers and the partners that are supporting them, but I would not want to read this book if I were not one of those two categories of people.
Someone referrred this book during a Friday night casual chat about the weight of a career woman slash mother slash wife slash contributing community member. I started this book that Friday night and had completed it by the next week's Friday morning.
It really hit home. Tiffany is a great writer and honest about her struggles with the aforementioned roles. I found myself laughing and on the verge of tears, recognizing my own story within her words.
She provides realistic tools and shares stories that are both enlightening and light hearted, making it easy to see room and opportunity for small changes in your own "life go round".
I read this book while nursing my newborn, waiting for laundry to finish, sitting with my 9 year old for reading time, my 10 minute "hurry up" lunch breaks, while hubby was in the garage working on his project or maintenancing my vehicle.
Speaking of hubby, he is definitely an advocate for sharing household and family duties and no stranger to streamlining or spearheading strategies for us, unlike Kojo (respectively)-- in the story--BUT after reading this book, it was easier to talk with him about my own anxieties and feelings of overwhelm.
I'd definitely recommend this book over and over again.
Where do I begin with Tiffany Dufu? All I can say is that I am so GLAD she took the time out to write this book. She really has a special way of writing, and i mean that in a good way. It is more than just a book, it is a couple's therapy session along with a women confidence booster. Tiffany makes you feel like you can really do anything as a woman, without really doing everything. As a person who often takes on alot just to please others, often putting others needs before my own, stressed about how I would maintain an ambitious career, along with being a future superb wife and mom, I could see myself becoming very stressed early on. She completely changed my perspective on the HOW to let go, without the sacrificing of SELF. She is raw, she is authentic, honest, and speaks on real shit that many women just don't speak off, either suppressing it out of fear of being judged or conditioned to believe that they just shouldn't think that way. Tiffany shines light on undisclosed issues the modern working woman faces, along with trying to keep a lifetstyle where they feel free to embrace who they are, without being looked down at for not being the best wife or mom. Tiffany Dufu, hats off to you for the movement you have brought to light! I honor you queen
This book was life-changing. I first heard about it on the Good Life Project podcast and it nearly made me cry, realizing all of the ways in which I assume what my role should be, as a "good woman" and as a good family member. But as a leader, it seems I've left my skills at work, rather than engaging in the kind of team-building I am usually very good at doing in my corporate role. For all women who suffer some version of "home control disorder" this will open your eyes to new possibilities.
This is an ESSENTIAL read for all women everywhere - whether you have children or not. Tiffany's transparency and authenticity about balancing career and home life are unprecedented. As a millennial woman without any children yet, I was a little apprehensive, thinking that the book would not apply to me. However, I was blown away in the first chapter because it made me recognize all the mistakes to avoid when building my family life and career life. Tiffany has given women everywhere a framework and the tools needed to not just drop the ball, but to boldly pursue what matters most unapologetically. This book helped me prevent so many issues later down the line. THANK YOU TIFFANY!