Instant Connection: How to Build Rapport with Anyone Instantly! is an appropriate book for those who lack social skills, or who find their shyness holding them back in life. As such, I could picture my awkward teenage son reading it and finding helpful tips such as:
• Looking at your phone or the TV instead of making eye contact with the person you’re speaking leads to poor connections and relationships
• The ripple effect that good posture has on confidence and how people perceive you
• The importance of asking questions of others and not just talking about yourself
• Taking the time and effort to write down, or journal about another person and how you can improve that relationship
From the perspective of a more mature audience, I would like to know the author’s expertise or credentials in relationship building, or some statistics, or research to shore up such concepts as:
“It is true that social interactions are much easier for some people than others. This may be something innate…but is also learned.”
I understand that the author’s focus is on the learning aspect and behavior modification, but the author does not touch upon the idea that innately, some people are introverts and are happy not making any extra efforts at rapport building. I think if the author were to acknowledge and explore this opposing idea, it would provide a more balanced view. For young people, in particular, who may not know they are introverts, the implicit message; that to function well in society one must strive toward extroversion can be damaging. In other words, it can lead to further frustration and unhappiness if they push themselves in a direction that goes against their authentic nature. But this is my personal introversion versus extroversion soapbox.
This book is valuable for those wishing to improve their relationship skills with tips and exercises to: increase confidence, show a keen interest in others, maintain good humor, journaling, and the daily challenge to work on relationship maintenance.