Just order it already. It's freaking amazing. I SO wish I had read this early on in my parenting journey. This book addresses the thoughts and feelings of any parent who's walked the treatment journey with a teen, from a firsthand perspective. You CANNOT go wrong with this book - it will hit you straight in the feels.
SUCH a good book!! There are many good (and not so good) parenting books and philosophies out there. In my experience, however, none of them really address the critical importance of parental “intention”. If a parent has unresolved emotional and psychological stressors, even the best parenting techniques and philosophies will fall short of their mark. Parents will then struggle more in raising their kids to become healthy adults and positive contributions to society. The excellence of this book is rooted in its message about empowering parents with the ability to go within and dig to the roots of how and why they parent the way they do. Truly seeing the “self” and fostering good emotional health and empathy builds a solid foundation for parents to better work with whatever parenting philosophies and techniques work best for their families.
My personal favorite parenting philosophy is written about in the book “Parenting With Love and Logic” by Jim Fay and Foster Cline. I have experienced first-hand how effective this philosophy can be when parents utilize it from a place of love and empathy. I have also personally witnessed how ineffective it can be when a parent uses the methods of “love and logic” without the backing of love and empathy. When a parents’ own unresolved issues, traumas, codependency, inner wounds, and anger merge with “love and logic” methods, the techniques can twist into drama and abuse. “Journey of the Heroic Parent” empowers parents to address any of their own issues which could undermine otherwise outstanding parenting philosophies like “love and logic”.
The author, Dr. Reedy, specializes in working with families who are dealing with “difficult” kids, often who are struggling with addictions of some kind. Dr. Reedy is the founder of a wilderness program designed to work with these kids and their families. Although ”Journey of the Heroic Parent” references a lot of the authors’ experience working with these kinds of family relationship dynamics, this book is equally beneficial for people who want to take their journey as a parent to another level. Doing the inner work will help parents create and develop closer connections with their kids, empowering a parent-child relationship that is built on trust, love, strength, healthy boundaries, and mutual empathy. This creates a strong foundation for a parenting “journey” that empowers kids with a much better chance of growing up to be emotionally and psychologically healthy individuals and positive contributions to society. I highly recommend this book to anyone who desires a more authentic bond with their children and who want to be the best possible parent – and person - they can be.
I wish I had read this book 10 or even 15 years ago, but at that time I didn't know I needed it. Even still with my 20 year old son battling addiction and childhood trauma, and me seeing so clearly now how poorly I have handled all of that, it's never too late to improve upon the way I relate to him. I find also that the ideas put forth in this book are helpful in my dealings with all people, not just my son.
As the parent of a child with addiction I have come to realize that my own peace of mind is critical. Heroic Parent clarifies how caring for yourself, with the hard work that requires, can allow your child to work on him or herself. "Am I a good dad?" no longer depends on my child's success or failure. Examples and suggestions that ring true and motivate me.
Love Brad Reedy and his down-to-earth parenting philosophy. Sent our son to wilderness 3 years ago. This morning he flew out to help his former therapist at her current wilderness program. Brad's direction on parenting helped get us through the tough times. We are grateful today!
This is a must read for any parent or caregiver trying to understand their childs behavior. This book will empower you to change the way you see yourself as a parent and become a better person. My copy is highlighted from front to back with endless notes. I am so thankful for Dr. Reedy and his work in mental health care.