I loved this book! Excellently written and it was a fun, educational, and uplifting book. The stories the authors shared along the way were very entertaining and had me laughing out loud at certain parts. My husband and I are looking forward to using the ideas in the book when raising our daughter.
I loved this book and the principles that were taught. I learned so much and I'm not even a parent yet! This book gave me tips and ideas of things I can do to become a better person and strengthen my relationships with others.
Marriage and family can be difficult, and most people can agree on that. It rarely turns out to be the fairy tale many of us imagine it to be. This book offers helpful and practical ways to make your home life peaceful and generally happy. Life can more closely resemble those things we most desire.
I thought this was a really good book. The advice is well thought out and very practical for almost everyone. Sometimes I would find myself wondering why I wasn't doing some of these things already. They just made so much sense. Each chapter begins with an active way to improve things, and then the chapter goes on to explain what this means and how to go about it. There are a lot of real-life examples, and these really help to make you see how these things can apply to many different lives and circumstances.
Much of the advice comes down to prioritizing the things you want in live and learning to truly love your family. It sounds fairly simple when written like this, but I think we all know that it is much more complex. I thought the book made a brilliant point in that any kind of life can be difficult. If we want something to be different, we should remember that in fact life wouldn't be any easier. There will always be things we have to work through, so we really need to learn to love our life as it is while recognizing that there are always things to improve and work on. I was inspired by this book to really focus on the big picture of my family and not get so hung up on the details. This is a book that will help people to refocus on the important parts of their family and ultimately have a much better life.
First I would like to say, "I love the cover of this book!" The beginning of the book is told like a fairy tale, which I think suits the overall theme of the book of be happy with you family forever. Of course issues will arise that will not be fun at all, but it is how we look and handle them that will determine our family's happiness. This book will help you think differently those `issues' that do arise, and there will be many.
I like the `Red Punch Experiment', read the excerpt below to see what it is.
Allow me to introduce the Red Punch Experiment, a tool to find happiness for you and for your family despite imperfections. I fell upon this idea in one of my college classes and have catered it to my own life. Let me set the scene: As company arrives, I finish preparing my favorite gourmet meal and admire my beautifully set table. I vacuum the floor, fluff the couch pillows, and hide the remaining dirty dishes in the dishwasher. As I dash away to put on a clean shirt, I remember to brush my teeth, touch up my make-up, and ensure the kids have spotless rooms (that no one will ever see). The guests are at the door; I graciously invite them in and we begin a delicious and lovely meal.
As we enjoy dinner, our guest bumps over his glass of red wine. It pours across the table, soaks his pants and speckles the floor and chair with a vibrant red. I jump up and say, "Let me get a towel." Flustered and damp, our guest apologizes profusely. As I clean the carpet, I assure him all is well. The mess and embarrassment are wiped away with love and some absorbent towels. Dinner resumes and eventually finishes with cheerfulness; no real harm has been done, save the issue of those soggy pants. When the evening is over, I am tired but I am definitely satisfied with the successful night, even if there is a red stain on the chair.
Now, let's observe a similar scene. I get home from work, the kids are hungry, and I am tired. After throwing on my lounge pants and t-shirt, I whip out some of my very best cans of soup, divvy out my least stale crackers, and mix a quick pitcher of Kool-Aid for a swift and easy dinner. The kids are moaning about their empty stomachs, and I am wholly distracted by what a wreck the house is in when, in a careless moment, one of the kids bumps their glass of Kool-Aid. Just as the wine decorated the tablecloth, chair, clothing and floor, so does the Kool-Aid. Words fly out of my mouth at an unstoppable pace: "What were you thinking? Why did you leave your glass on the edge? We are never going to get this stain out!" As I impatiently command my child to get a towel, the tension rises and my perception of happiness is obstructed. All I can see is an abundance of red, flooding over an already daunting mountain of chores.
I have been guilty of this many times (and similar situations), that is why it made me stop and think. Making it seem as though I cared more about guest in our home and their happiness, than about my husband or children.
It seems so simple that we should care more for our family than material things, or our friends. After all our children and our spouse are only human, and we are stuck with them for life.
In this book the author speaks plainly and gives us a lot to think about and put into practice when it comes to our family's happiness, and making them feel they are number one in our lives.
Reading this book has helped me to step back a little and look at the bigger picture. My children no longer live at home, so it's just my husband and I. He is a painting contractor so as you can imagine he is constantly dragging buckets of paint and spray machines through the house to carry then to the back porch. Hello! It is not like he can't go around back and open the gate and take them in that way. Right?
For some reason after all these years, he still doesn't get what the big deal is. Maybe I need to stand back and keep my mouth shut and only fuss about it if he makes a mess in the floor. What? So if he makes a mess who will clean it up, me? See, this is something I will have to work on.
I liked this book and I will probably be reading it again, simply to remind myself that my family matters more to me than material things, friends and company. Just because I clean toilets and vacuum the floor does not mean that they know I love them. I have to show an `active' interest in things that matter to them. Hug and kiss often, and don't freak out over the smallest of things.
We can always improve ourselves, and perception of situations. Sometimes we just need to step back and take another look. I recommend this book to mothers, and anyone looking to improve their family happiness, and their `happily ever after'.
Despite having already 'raised' my two older kids, this gem of a book is still well worth the read. Definitely something I can turn to when I need batch of fresh ideas or even just a parental pick-me-up. Another plus is that this is not some giant tome that will forever sit on the bookshelf of good intentions; the formatting keeps the subjects in an easy-to-flip to order, as well as the paragraph to two of content per subject is just right for busy parents who don't have a whole lot of discretionary time.
I know Brad Wilcox personally and I know that he wouldn't write anything without putting much time and effort into the book or haven't written about these principles without actually using them in his life. Though I'm not a parent it is a book that I can use in relationships in general. Thank you so much for these principles that can help make better relationships.
This book is a must-read for all parents! I'm not a parent yet, but I've always been interested in the "secret" to parenting because I'm anxious about how to raise my future children. Thinking ahead can never hurt, right? Well, I read this book, and I loved it! The stories are fun as well as touching. I believe that any parent that implements these principles can create better relationships with his or her children. I am excited to try them out on my own children someday. I especially like the Principles of Action at the end of the chapters; they give me something to do to improve and discover about myself, especially in dealing with my family.