I own just about every parenting book that has ever been written. Then one day a friend recommended Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting - no doubt sick of me lamenting my unruly children - nine year old daughter and seven year old son. I bought it figuring that it would end up on the bookshelf next to the other ones, but instead it sits on the table by the chair near the window so I can return to it to remind myself of the magic it works. After a day or two of using just a few of the techniques in this book our kids were happier, more cooperative, and there was a general sense of ease and fun within out home. This book doesn't try to change everything overnight. It doesn't try to change your kids, take away their feelings, and make them little automatons who come, sit, and stay. It teaches you how to better understand what your child feels and how to respond to them in a way that makes them want to participate in a respectful manner. I haven't even gotten to the second half of the book, but we're doing so well with what we have implemented that I felt the need to share. The techniques don't even involve sweeping changes to your lifestyle either. They are pretty simple, short conversations and tweaks that show almost immediate results. And it has affected every aspect of their lives. It's not just that they are more compliant, but they are actually happier and more confident and their behavior stems from that, rather than fear of consequences. They are doing better in school and at home. They are calmer, easier, happier people.
It did just the trick for us.