I bought this book after seeing on some Christian blog that the kindle version was free (or maybe it was just really cheap). I started reading it and was very impressed from the get go. Here are the reasons I loved the book:
*Each chapter has discussion questions/homework at the end to stimulate action on your part. Loved that.
*His advice was based on Biblical teachings. For instance, in the section on "Home Improvements," which is how to work for changes in your relationship, he uses Jesus' teaching about removing the beam (or log) from your own eye before asking your spouse to remove his/her splinter (mote). Then, express love to your spouse in his/her language, and THEN request change in a loving way. This advice is Christ-like and not manipulative. Another example is in the section on marriage intimacy and sex. He uses Songs of Solomon as an example of how the man is to love the woman, and then she returns the love and invites him to intimacy. I've been a believer my whole life and have never thought of Songs as Solomon as an example of a pattern of courtship and intimacy; I often wondered why it was in the Bible in the first place. Yet another example is in the section about money. Before delving into techniques on budgeting and saving, he spends a considerable time explaining the need to not be materialistic (the love of money is wrong) and payment of tithing and giving offerings and how these bless the marriage.
*He gives lots of real-life examples from his years as a counselor and his personal life that demonstrate clearly what he is advising.
*The book is thorough. It covers conflict resolution, initiating bigger changes, money, sex, relationships with in-laws, and nurturing your marriage.
*I read this book on my own and found a few important changes I can implement myself. A couple does not have to read this book together. I learned and began to apply some things on my own. Similarly, you can be in a happy marriage and find something to learn. I am in a happy marriage, yet I am glad I read the book because it opened my eyes on how I should be avoiding arguments and be more loving when I want to request a change in my husband.
*The advice given on conflict resolution and relationship with in-laws can apply in so many situations. For example, the listening skills can be used in work. There truly is a lot to learn from this book.
I highly recommend this book to any Christian, or any person who can accept that it quotes the Bible (if you are atheist, it is probably not for you). It is a gem. I have read some books by the Mars & Venus guy (is it Grey?), Dr. Laura, various Christian counselors, and some other random books. This book is my favorite of all of them.