Whew!!! What an incredible, incredible story!!! The title of this book, Inconceivable, is perfect.....because it's hard to even conceive that something like this could happen.....but happen it did....and Sean and Carolyn's life would never be the same again. Their quest for a fourth child through IVF came about......with one problem....the embryo their doctor implanted was not theirs. Thus begins their heartbreaking journey down a path they never in a million years could have imagined.
Having struggled with infertility for years, the couple decided to try for their fourth child utilizing IVF. Their third child had been successfully conceived through IVF.....so they went back to the same doctor who had successfully helped them conceive in the past. Carolyn was getting up there in years and had suffered 4 miscarriages in the past. The past pregnancies had taken a serious toll on her body and they knew this was pretty much her last hope to have their long desired fourth child. Very quickly they were told that the procedure had been a success.....only a mix up at the clinic had left them pregnant with another couple's embryo. Imagine the shock!!!!!
Their doctor was rightfully horrified and advised them they should have an abortion. The couple immediately rejected this idea....as they were Catholics and didn't believe in abortion. They, also couldn't imagine killing the child of the other couple. With breaking hearts....they made the courageous decision to have this baby and turn it over to the couple who were the genetic parents. Even though they were doing the right thing....they struggled mightily and felt pain in ways most of us thankfully never will.
Although they knew the child growing in Carolyn was not genetically theirs....they couldn't help but fall in love with this precious life growing inside of them. They saw this little life as their baby and came to love it just as they would their own.
The chapters go back and forth from Carolyn to Sean....with each of them sharing their thoughts, feelings, heartache, pain, and fears. It was really nice hearing from both of them and seeing how it affected them. Their incredible pain can be felt throughout each page of this book. They struggle with knowing that this innocent baby they've fallen in love with....Will have to be turned over shortly after entering the world.
I have the utmost respect for this couple. When faced with shocking, heartbreaking circumstances....they stood by their beliefs and chose to give this child life. They didn't turn away from their religious beliefs...even when it caused them pain. I doubt many people would have made the same selfless sacrifice. After reading this book, I read where this exact same thing had happened several times in Europe. In every story I read, the woman decided to abort the other couple's embryo. Not Carolyn and Sean. They chose to sacrifice enormously to stand by their convictions and give another couple the greatest gift imaginable. Even with all the risks involved....They still chose life for this precious baby.
They made this sacrifice even knowing that it would probably cost them the chance of having their fourth child they had longed for. Carolyn's doctor had already told her that this would be her last pregnancy due to previous serious complications during pregnancy. She willingly chose to take this risk in order to give this baby life. What greater sacrifice can one give for another?
This beautiful couple brings you along on their painful journey.....it's raw....it's real....the pain is brutal. Yet, their faith in God and love for one another shines through the pages of this book. I highly recommend this book.....It shows how God can bring you through the deepest pain...the blackest night.....after you finish reading it....look them up on the internet....and you'll see what has happened in the years since....that God ultimately brought them beauty for ashes!!!!!