I have read and reread his book a few times now. Information is clear and concise. If you have trouble and need some help understanding women, dating, sex, this is a very good read. Even if you have a steady girlfriend or wife, this book will help you avoid mistakes we all make and find ways to improve your relationship. The perspective of the author is key...she honestly wants to help, sees what goes to destroy relationships, and offers advice that isn't found just anywhere.
Man or Woman I advise that you read this book. Couples who buy this book I advice that you read it as a couple. It can really help you open up and get your more comfortable with one another. Even if you are already comfortable talking with one another it can be a great experience to share together. As a woman this book also helped me to know that I wasn't alone in the way I was feeling that I am not weird or strange and that all or a lot of woman feel the same way I do and experience the same problems that I do. That being said it can help the woman relax about the way she is feeling while the man learns how to help her feel even better. I love the whit that the writer puts into this book and the fact that it isn't just a bunch of boring facts.
Good book. Read it from front to back twice. Still not 100% on getting into her head. No matter how much material you read or how hard you try you will never fully figure out how a woman thinks. This book however did help me be a little more patient with my wife. The in the bed thing is still in work. She's just not as frisky as some women.
I'm 22 and have never had a girlfriend. Part of that is simply not being around a lot of people (especially girls) my age (homeschooled untill college). So not only was i introverted and socially not developed, but i had zero experience with only the insight of my sister to help me along some. Now i've met someone who i truly adore but i didn't know what to do and was scared. I was scared to touch her, i didnt know how to compliment her at all, and i had trouble conversing with her. A lot of that has passed with time and patience on her part through our friendship and a lot of self examination on mine. She knows i like her and i think that part of the reason she's not quite there yet is the way i suck at communicating what i need to. I almost put this book back on the shelf after thinking it was going to be all about trying to score, but it isn't. It's about breaking down walls of confusion, frustration, miscommunication, and fear. I am about half-way through this book and so far it's been very helpful with basic communications rules of thumb, as well as helping me understand her a bit better. It's also helping me to begin to touch her more in pretty casual ways. She is different in some aspects emotionally from other girls and actually has some generally male emotional tendencies, and i realised that i had some generally female emotional tendencies. She will express anger which i admire, but i will get sad for getting angry and i have trouble releasing it. You wouldnt think someone (me) who consistently played sports for more than a decade would be that way! I also realised that i did not hug and embrace like close girlfriends do to each other because guys don't really do that, and that i'm not messed up or abnormal for feeling a little neglected when girls don't hug me (no i'm not an obese troll, i've been told by multiple girls that i am attractive). I've also always been piss poor at complimenting women because i was always afraid of them thinking i was trying to get some when i just wanted to compliment them and admire their beauty. This is helping me move past that, and helping me convey how i appreciate her. With any luck this book will have helped me finally get a truly wonderful young woman.
My sister gave me this book and I balked. Felt funny reading it. But Daylle makes sense. I felt like she was writing it to me. I knew a lot of what she writes about but it was the way she said it that made it click. I recognized myself in many parts, especially the chapter on emotions. I didn't like what I read but know it's true. Daylle's goal is to help men understand why women need things from us that we hate giving. I've always resented when a woman pushed for compliments or expressions of feelings. First the first time I really understand how much upbringing is responsible. She's right. Neither sex asked to be how they are. I've begun to see my current woman differently and am slowly doing some of what I learned. The emphasis on creating connections was a great lesson. I am seeing that what Daylle calls "the little things" can go far. They take little effort and make her happier and more agreeable. I've already tried some of the suggestions for better sex and they work. I have a much more responsive partner already, and she seems to be wanting it more. Daylle doesn't emphasize crazy positions or anything unusual. She did help me understand better how a woman's body operates and how much I can do to make my partner want me more. This book is definitely worth the read! Whatever tips you can use will make your life with women better.
Any book that honestly attempts to bridge the desires and expectations of men and women is a good thing in my opinion. Most of Daylle Schwartz's book deals with pleasing women "out of bed," which I think is for the best. Towards the end, she transfers the common sense suggestions she's made for listening to attending to the needs of women to the realm of the bedroom. Basically what it comes down to is that to be a decent lover, a man shouldn't be wanting to learn bedroom tricks, but rather should be willing to be a friend to the all of the woman that he loves. It's not the most comprehensive or perfect book, but I think there's plenty of information and ideas about what women want that any man can benefit from.