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Susan J.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Being the right kind of rude rules
Reviewed in the United States on December 1, 2020
Rude: Stop Being Nice and Start Being Bold looks at how women are conditioned to always act “nice,” and how when they act assertive, they are labeled “rude,” among other harsh titles such as “diva,” “high maintenance,” and “pushy.” Reid shows the places and situations in one’s life when it is better to act in a “positive rude” way rather than adopting a self-sacrificing “nice” persona. The book covers the areas of friends, family, dating, sex, weddings, consumer, work, money, and health. The consumer section takes a close look at working with hairstylists, the service industry, and the best practice for how to complain when services and products fall short of expectations. The health section provides specific guidance on “lady problems,” fat shaming, miscarriages, and giving birth. Each of the nine main section is followed tips on being the right kind of rude and include a nod to a famous person role model e.g. Taylor Swift, Anne Boleyn, Rosa Parks, and Meghan Markle.

The book contains lots of interesting and actionable information and is written in a straightforward and accessible manner. I like the focus on “positive” rudeness, which is based on the concept that a woman’s needs are as valid and equally important as those of others. The dating section talks about how women are conditioned to deliver “nice” rejections, often lying about having a significant other rather than admitting to a lack of interest, and how not letting people, men in particular, experience honest rejection can create a culture of entitlement. This, in an extreme case, can contribute to violence against women due to that entitlement.

In the section on work, the author shares a concept called “hepeating” where a man repeats something a woman has said in a meeting and gets credit for her idea, because it becomes somehow more palatable coming from a man. Also, this section addresses the ways women have learned to soften their email communications and have been conditioned to apologize.

I enjoyed not only the content, but the way the book is organized, the end of chapter summaries, and the famous person role models. In my opinion, some of the sections could have been expanded, but nevertheless Rude is an empowering read.

I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

Thanks to NetGalley and Simon & Schuster for providing an Advance Reader Copy.
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@angelaswriter
4.0 out of 5 stars boldly confident
Reviewed in the United States on December 5, 2020
I wasn’t sure what I would think abut this book, as I see most of society’s problems are that people are too rude. I feel we do need more kindness in life. However, this book wasn’t really teaching about rudeness in the way I see much of society. It’s a confident boldness, where you can be yourself and not be afraid to say what you need at work (even if it is just a bathroom break) or how to teach others how to treat you and how not to treat you. She teaches a non- passive-aggressive way to find the confident boldness many women need, and to not feel rude about doing so. She also shares stories of her own struggles in the process.
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Mandy Hazen
5.0 out of 5 stars A MUST READ
Reviewed in the United States on December 1, 2020
How frustrating is it to be told by all the different sources the things you must do to be successful in life? This book definitely does NOT do that. It instead takes an empathetic approach and gives bite size approaches and allows you to have kindness and patience with yourself when dealing with life. This is so necessary for everyone to read in life. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
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Jessica Kafka
4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting self help book for women
Reviewed in the United States on January 16, 2021
Rude: Stop Being Nice and Start Being Bold by Rebecca Reid is an interesting self-help book for woman about valuing yourself.

Reid defines rude as doing what is best for yourself and not putting others first. Reid describes many different topics including family, friends, and dating. There are personal stories from Reid and others’ lives. Rude also contains many pop culture references like how Taylor Swift personifies Rude.

I found Rude to be very helpful and an interesting perspective. Reid describes ways that avoiding what someone perceives as Rude can really hurt everyone involved. This was a way of looking at things I never would’ve come up with on my own. There were so many situations Reid described that were so relatable and showed I could’ve handled things better by being rude. I thought Reid did a great job explaining how important it is for woman to be “rude” and give advice on how to be. This book was the perfect mix of real life examples, pop culture references, and descriptions.

I recommend Rude to anyone looking for a self-help book to be more assertive or just looking for an interesting perspective on putting yourself first.

Thank you Simon & Schuster, NetGalley, and Edelweiss for Rude.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Smart, entertaining and very accurate
Reviewed in Canada on January 20, 2021
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This book said a lot of things I--and many other women--needed to hear, and managed to be quite entertaining at the same time. I am constantly amazed by the number of experiences and behaviours that I thought were "just me", but in fact are shared by a large percentage of the female population.

Also excellent reading for men, whether they're looking to be ruder themselves, or just want a little insight into the female perspective.
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