Today I am talking about the main thing that keeps people pleasers and perfectionists from setting boundaries – fear! I am going to walk you through a mindfulness practice to help you feel more relaxed as you can build the courage to confidently set boundaries and say “no” when you need to.

Join me in this episode to learn how you can stop letting fear get in the way of not only boundary setting, but pretty much anything that stops you in your tracks.

In this episode:

• Debunking a common myth about boundaries
• How awareness puts you in a position of power
• Mindfulness exercise that desensitizes you to discomfort

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One of my pet peeves started this episode topic off – how social media posts about “boundary setting” are full of shit. Thankfully I have resolved my irritation, and I am sharing how you can as well.

I’d like to invite you to bring your OUTSIDE voice back into the rotation. Well, actually it’s the INSIDE voice that I am calling OUT.

This is all the things you practice saying in the shower or in the car and you never can imagine saying them IRL out loud.

I’ve got some good ideas about how you can make the IRL thing actually happen. What makes this episode worth listening to:

1. I ask you some super thought-provoking questions right at the beginning
2. Why you’ve said this more than you’d like to admit - “I’d never say that to their face!”
3. How to start moving the big boulder of FEAR that keeps you silent and resentful.

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Decisions scramble people pleasers. We want to make sure everyone is happy with what we choose, but that will never happen. Hard to hear, but it’s the truth.

Harder to hear is the reality that we, as pleasers, do not often consider OURSELVES when it comes to making decisions. We get lost in what other people want or what others are doing. No rocking the boat right? In this episode I share how I got totally lost and made a stupid decision that I still live with today. Not an earth shattering one, but one that got my attention and basically that is the main point of this episode – attention and awareness. Enjoy listening to me completely forget my mindfulness practice and get caught up in belonging with the group.

Highlights and take aways from this episode:

• Link to mini course on decision making using Internal Family Systems.

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• A simple 4 word mantra to guide you in decision making.
• The super power of getting comfortable with discomfort.

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