In this reflective episode, we delve into the poignant concept of "bridge relationships" — those transformative bonds that may not last forever, but crucially pave the way to lasting connections. We explore how dwelling on past bitterness can obstruct our personal growth and hinder the invaluable lessons these relationships will teach us.

We also discuss the power of embracing gratitude towards our former partners, shedding light on how such a perspective can elevate a deeper understanding of ourselves and lead to profound self-revelation. We'll examine how assigning blame can be counterproductive, while acknowledging the role they've played in our journeys will usher us into new levels of maturity and readiness for our forever relationships.

Gain insights on moving forward with an open heart, while preparing yourself for the love that's meant to stay. This transformative discussion just change how you view your past and future relationships.

Part-two of our series highlighting Matt Heincker's new queer podcast, "Through the Long Night."

In this powerful episode of How to Find (& Keep) A Gay Man, The Matts delve into the heart-wrenching journey of Matt Heincker’s battle with overwhelming despair and suicidal thoughts as a closeted gay man in college.

As he stands on the precipice of darkness, contemplating the end, Heincker finds himself grappling with his identity and the fear of rejection from those he holds dear. Yet, amidst the turmoil, he discovers a glimmer of hope – a love that transcends human understanding, a love that refuses to let him go.

Join us as we explore the transformative power of loving ourselves, the resilience of the human spirit, and the unwavering presence of a higher power guiding us through the darkest of nights.

WE ARE BACK!!!! And we’re thrilled to announce the return of "How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man" for its much-anticipated SEASON 2.

Join hosts, Matt Bays and Matt Heincker, as they bring fresh perspectives and enlightening experiences to the table.

Matt Bays recounts his global adventures alongside his husband, distilling the essence of what makes a thriving partnership in the LGBTQ+ community. He brings back invaluable insights into the art of what it means to be a good partner.

Meanwhile, Matt Heincker has been diligently cultivating his own audio venture, "Through the Long Night: A Man’s Journey Out of Darkness and into the Technicolored Light of Love and Peace,” which we tease in this episode...with the promise of MORE TO COME in the next several weeks. This is Heincker’s personal story as a closeted queer boy raised in a restrictive religious culture, and promises to be a stirring exploration of personal growth and emotional resilience.

We also delve into the power of curiosity and how it serves as the lifeblood of a dynamic and robust relationship.

Stay tuned as we navigate these conversations with heart, humor, and authenticity.

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the intricate dance of maintaining autonomy while fostering deep connections in our gay relationships. Join us as we unravel the complexities of balancing independence and togetherness, exploring how codependence and attachment styles impact our romantic journeys.

The Matts share insights on striking the right harmony between personal growth and shared experiences. Through candid discussions, they uncover practical strategies for nurturing a healthy partnership while respecting individual identities.

From examining the role of communication in setting boundaries to understanding the impact of various attachment styles, this episode serves as a valuable guide for gay men seeking to find (& keep) their gay man. Whether you're navigating the early stages of love or looking to reignite the spark in a long-term commitment, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how to forge a lasting connection while embracing the beauty of self-discovery.

For more bitchy wisdom, follow on ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ & ⁠TIKTOK⁠

To watch the podcast, follow them on ⁠YouTube⁠

Or check out the ⁠How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man⁠ website.

In the episode The Aging Queen, Matt & Matt delve into the poignant topic of aging anxiety within the gay community. They candidly explore the fears, challenges, and emotional dynamics that arise as gay men confront the prospect of growing older.

Listeners will hear personal stories as The Matts recount their experiences grappling with societal pressures, beauty standards, and the fear of losing their identity as they age.

This episode ultimately aims to provide comfort, insight, and a sense of community for those navigating the complex emotions surrounding aging within the gay community. You’ll leave with a deeper understanding of WHY gay men are obsessed with youth and beauty, and also with practical strategies for cultivating self-acceptance and resilience.

Mental health struggles are also discussed.

For more bitchy wisdom, follow on ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ & ⁠TIKTOK⁠

To watch the podcast, follow them on ⁠YouTube⁠

Or check out the ⁠How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man⁠ website.

On parts 1 & 2, the Matts debunked biblical scriptures about “the sin” 🙄 of homosexuality and also shared their personal stories on how the church kept them stuck, living as heterosexuals while they were closeted, super gay homosexuals. 🥳

Now, in this final installment of “The Lord is My Shepherd and She Knows I’m Gay,” they talk about viable options for moving forward spiritually. What does reconstructing your faith look like? Or are you looking to be religiously unaffiliated and do life without religion?

With over NINETY YEARS of religious teaching between them (no lie), these two queerbies have successfully navigated and overcome the f*cked up fundamental waters of religion. And with their experience, has come wisdom and compassion for the many who are still struggling to find their way.

For more bitchy wisdom, follow on ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ & ⁠TIKTOK⁠

To watch the podcast, follow them on ⁠YouTube⁠

Or check out the ⁠How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man⁠ website.

On part 2 of “The Lord is My Shepherd, and She Knows I’m Gay,” the Matts talk about the impact of being raised in a non-affirming christian environment by sharing their personal stories.

They discuss their conservative church upbringing, the pursuit of “healing” their sexual orientation as young gay men, the negative impact of conservative christian therapy, suicidal ideation, and how they finally made peace with themselves by making the decision to live as their most authentic gay selves.

Surprisingly, they also speak with gratitude of the parts of their church experience that impacted them for the good.

For more bitchy wisdom, follow on ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ & ⁠TIKTOK⁠

To watch the podcast, follow on ⁠YouTube⁠

Or check out the ⁠How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man⁠ website.

Combined, the Matts have over 90 years of church experiences insisting that who they are (gay) is wrong. But they have moved into full acceptance of themselves.

In this first installment of a three-part series, The Lord is My Shepherd, and She Knows I’m Gay, Matt and Matt take on the one issue that has plagued queer people since gay dinosaurs roamed the gay earth…

RELGION.

They tell us what the bible really has to say about homosexuality, discuss how religious shame has kept gay men stuck for eons, and show us how to finally move past it. Also, they go after the religious right’s conservative take on the LGBTQ+ community, and (while using the bible itself) show us how and why they adopted such a narrow way of thinking.

You’ve heard the “clobber passages” of what God allegedly thinks of gays and what their punishment for being gay will one day be. Now it’s time to hear the truth they don’t want you to know.

And it is beyond time to find the spiritual confidence to say without hesitation: “The Lord is My Shepherd, and She Knows I’m Gay.”

For more bitchy wisdom, follow on ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ & ⁠TIKTOK⁠

To watch the podcast, follow them on ⁠YouTube⁠

Or check out the ⁠How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man⁠  website.