• Should I Stay or Should I Go?

  • A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can - and Should - Be Saved
  • By: Lundy Bancroft, JAC Patrissi
  • Narrated by: Stephen R. Thorne
  • Length: 13 hrs and 51 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (266 ratings)

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

By: Lundy Bancroft, JAC Patrissi
Narrated by: Stephen R. Thorne
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In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward, with or without their partners. Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to: tell the difference between a healthy yet difficult relationship and one that is really not working, recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem, stop waiting to see what happens and make their own growth the top priority, and prepare for life without their partner, even as they keep trying to make the relationship work.

©2011 Lundy Bancroft and Judith Patrissi (P)2015 Tantor

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"Women needing to check in objectively on their relationship's health will find this book quite useful." ( Publishers Weekly)

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Great book!!

This is a very good work, very informative, and it’s easy to apply to your daily life

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fantastic!

everyone needs to read our listen to this book! it's insight is vital for a healthy relationship, romantic or otherwise.

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Excellent!

This book is a treasure, a gift to humanity. I took in every word. Simply brilliant! The narration was good too. This book finally brought the clarity that dozens of other books on the subject failed to provide. The clarity is what I value most. I am deeply grateful for this book.

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Understanding why abusive partners do what they do and how/why it affects you, give this a listen it’s groundbreaking

For me, this book has changed my entire outlook on abuse and toxic relationships. Putting everything in the correct perspective and focusing on the health and well-being of the abused person significantly more than the motives and tactics of the abuser and their lack of self awareness or ability to change, which is the main focus of other outlets who talk about “The Narcissists”. The approach taken here is far better in that it captures a much wider range of abuser and puts them directly at fault for their actions and takes the blame off the abused person as described within. More people need to hear this book as it answers and guides so well to solve so many issues created intentionally by the abuser, absolutely groundbreaking. Thank you for creating this content, sincerely.

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Excellent descriptions

The author really delves in to get to the root of a dysfunctional relationship and offers many solutions and outcomes for various scenarios.. He is not biased but very stern on how an individual should evaluate and access their own situation

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this helped me leave my abusive marriage

this book was the support I needed when I had none. I listened daily on my hour long walks, and I'm so thankful for it.

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A must read for women who are in u healthy relationships

If you are unhappy in your current relationship this is a MUST read for you. I am well read and know enough about human psychology, experienced my share of trauma in life to know this is a must must must read book for you. It’s realistic, it’s non-judgmental, it’s practical, well researched and simply the best manual for helping you sort through tough decisions.

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Amazing just like Why Does He Do That?

Loved every part from beginning to the end. To hear someone actually understand my life, plus have compassion for it is very rare.

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Great tool

Critical information and path for any woman trying to make sense of her relationship with her partner.

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Loved it!

Very helpful! Now I know what I need to do, and where my spouse currently is in himself. I feel a weight off, just knowing I'm not going crazy, and his research backs me up. Thank you!

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