
The Invisible Orientation
An Introduction to Asexuality
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Buy for $19.95
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Narrated by:
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Reay Kaplan
What if you weren't sexually attracted to anyone?
A growing number of people are identifying as asexual. They aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and they consider it a sexual orientation - like gay, straight, or bisexual.
Asexuality is the invisible orientation. Most people believe that "everyone" wants sex, that "everyone" understands what it means to be attracted to other people, and that "everyone" wants to date and mate. But that's where asexual people are left out - they don't find other people sexually attractive, and if and when they say so, they are very rarely treated as though that's okay.
When an asexual person comes out, alarming reactions regularly follow; loved ones fear that an asexual person is sick, or psychologically warped, or suffering from abuse. Critics confront asexual people with accusations of following a fad, hiding homosexuality, or making excuses for romantic failures. And all of this contributes to a discouraging master narrative: there is no such thing as "asexual". Being an asexual person is a lie or an illness, and it needs to be fixed.
In The Invisible Orientation, Julie Sondra Decker outlines what asexuality is, counters misconceptions, provides resources, and puts asexual people's experiences in context as they move through a very sexualized world. It includes information for asexual people to help understand their orientation and what it means for their relationships, as well as tips and facts for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.
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I’d recommend this to anyone looking to learn more.
Awareness is Helpful
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Eye Opening
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Other than that, I really loved this, and will likely be sending it to friends and family if/when I come out.
Good informative writing, not the best narrator
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The book seems to lie somewhere between lists of facts and a series of personal essays. I think it is a good first start in an area that seriously needs more attention and information.
It's a bit dry at times, but again, it is meant to be informative, not to be a riveting story.
Pick this up if you are asexual, or if you are curious or questioning. It is affirming and positive, and I do recommend it.
Much needed book on asexuality
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A massive overload of information
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Great Coverage of a Misunderstood Orientation
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Very informative
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Pronunciation grates on my nerves
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This book explains so much, and yet I feel that there's even more to learn. She has so many resources listed at the end that anyone could delve deeper if they wished.
I was looking for a book with a protagonist on the Ace Spectrum, but I struggled to choose a book because I didn't know anything. The author is Ace so I'm using this book. It's well written, but a little dry and repetitive. A solid 4 stars for me.
So much to learn. This is a great start
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What did you learn from The Invisible Orientation that you would use in your daily life?
It made me realize how much is left unseen by us just because we persistently reflect our own experience on others and neglect to even acknowledge that alternatives are not impossible and this from simple phrases regarded by society to be inexorably true such as "We're human, we all have (sexual) needs" to "We all need (romantic) love to be happy". You have found an ally in me.Any additional comments?
The thing I'm grateful the most is that because of this book I now understand my peers and myself a little better.This book needed to exist!
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