At the end of her best-selling memoir Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert fell in love with Felipe - a Brazilian-born man of Australian citizenship who'd been living in Indonesia when they met. Resettling in America, the couple swore eternal fidelity to each other, but also swore to never, ever, under any circumstances get legally married. (Both survivors of difficult divorces. Enough said.)
But providence intervened one day in the form of the U.S. government, who - after unexpectedly detaining Felipe at an American border crossing - gave the couple a choice: they could either get married, or Felipe would never be allowed to enter the country again.
Having been effectively sentenced to wed, Gilbert tackled her fears of marriage by delving completely into this topic, trying with all her might to discover (through historical research, interviews and much personal reflection) what this stubbornly enduring old institution actually is. The result is Committed - a witty and intelligent contemplation of marriage that debunks myths, unthreads fears and suggests that sometimes even the most romantic of souls must trade in her amorous fantasies for the humbling responsibility of adulthood.
Gilbert's memoir - destined to become a cherished handbook for any thinking person hovering on the verge of marriage - is ultimately a clear-eyed celebration of love, with all the complexity and consequence that real love, in the real world, actually entails.
©2010 Elizabeth Gilbert; (P)2010 Bloomsbury Publishing Plc
All pumped up after reading Eat Love Pray - I was so keen to be engaged again by the Author that I dove right into this book without hesitation, only to be completely disappointed that 90% is about the history of Matrimony which was a big fat BORING and 10% about Elizabeth and Filipe. I felt completely let down by the Author and it feels like her publisher told her to spit another book out as the loyal fans will just go ahead and buy it regardless - Well Yes I did and I advise everyone DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME OR MONEY ON THIS ONE.
Such a shame to follow through with something so boring. The 1st and last chapter were ok but gee the marriage research just dragged and dragged.
Elizabeth Gilbert feels like a friend now after listening to her read this book. I love how she argues both sides of the argument fairly, looking honesty at the issues she's concerned with.
Insightful, thought provoking and rewarding
Brilliant book. Feels like it was written for me. I am married and have always questioned marriage, wondered about history of the thing. This book delves into the history of marriage, the way it varies in cultures and countries, why we do it and what it all means. Now I just need Elizabeth Gilbert to have children so she can answer all my questions about raising children and motherhood.
amazingly enough this book is good, and yet, i did not like it. the writer is talented but the subject is I ME MINE. it made me tierd listening about me me me. the witer is very educated, interesting but i do not take her view on life in general. the biggest thig regards her choise not to have kids. i find it odd. just like she thinks, and i agree with her ,that traveling teaches you and open your mind, raising a child does the same. so with all her wide view i think she still misses a lot from the whole picture. eventhough she is part of the "auntibragaed".
i did not like this book, still i will look into future books that miss gilbert will write cause she is a good wrtier, just not on the subject of marriage.
Commited is a book for those people who have or have had at some point in their lives, a hard time coming to terms with the institution of marriage. It is probably not for those who do not or did not question marriage, or those who do not or did not feel uncomfortable with conforming to such traditional institution. Commited is a long personal reflection of the author with regard to the need of getting married independently of her will. It seems that process took her took many months. To me, it took years. So, I definitely recommend the book. But don't expect a sequel of Eat, Pray, Love. This is an exercise on introspection, with rather little travelling and fun.
After finishing the book, I immediately looked for some of her speeches and talks and particularly enjoyed her TED talk on the creative process. She is an incredibly articulate writer with the perfect mixture of ironic and serious prose.
I had never listened to a writer speaking his (her) own book. It is very interesting and she did it well. I wished, though, she sounded a little more ironic on the ironic parts and paused longer after them, so that I would have had time to finish laughing before she started the following paragraph.
It is a long book, impossible to listen in one sitting for someone who juggles between family and office.
I'm an idealistic, 30 something year old, urban philosopher that lives in Cape Town, South Africa.
Being on the precipice of marriage myself, I bought Committed hoping it would discuss marriage from a few different sociological perspectives, which it did, albeit lightly. What surprised me is that this book is primarily a story, a story about Elizabeth Gilbert's attempt at coming to terms with the whole idea of marriage after having been through an intensely painful one already.
And being a guy I was hesitant to read an emotional account of her experience, but having just finished the book, I'm pleased to say that I have grown by reading this book. Without really expecting it to, it has addressed some of my own concerns, doubts and questions about marriage. And now, going into marriage, I think that I will approach it with a better appreciation for what women have given up for marriage in the past, and hopefully I'll use this knowledge to help redefine marriage within the privacy of my own union, and in doing so, within my community.
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