©1991 Deborah Tannen, All Rights Reserved; (P)1991 Simon & Schuster Inc., All Rights Reserved; SOUND IDEAS Is an Imprint of Simon & Schuster Audio Division, Simon & Schuster Inc.
"Insightful"
I was assigned this book in a class a few semesters ago, and couldn't understand why. That was untill I read it. It is insightful, and gives explainations, to terrible relationships I have had in the past. Now when I get frustrated with someone I think back to this book, and try to understand whether we disagree or are just misunderstanding each others.
"Avoid misunderstandings that become catastriphic"
Examples were helpful and explanation was succinct
Great for anyone who interacts with people on a deep interpersonal,
"men and women are different -- DUH!"
All I got from this "book" is that men and women are different. Duh! For those under 35 or 40 this might be a revelation, but not for those of us above. I gave this "book" a 1 because it was not possible to give it a 0. In nearly fifty years on this earth I have found that the example people used are more the exception than the rule. people, both men and women, fall everywhere within the spectrum including the stereotypical man and stereotypical woman. While the "average man" and "average woman" groups might not be coincidental, they are both further from there stereotype extremes than one might infer from listening to this "book". Do yourself two favors: remember that men and women are different; and give your 8 dollars and 90 minutes to your favorite charity.
As a small defense of this book, I've yet to find an abridged version of anything worth the money spent. Though I doubt it, it is possible that an unabridged version of this book might be worth a look.
"Terrible"
I have listened to multiple self help books, this was a waste of money, very short little vignettes in monotone voice.
"You Just Don't Understand"
This books represents an inciteful view of the linguistic differences between men and women. It takes a non-biased approach on dissecting the differences between the two sexes and how they interpret different meanings, from the same words, in identical context. Not your typical "Venus v. Mars" book.....