So many of us spend so much time enmeshed in other people's problems, trying to solve or change them, that we don't really know where we end and they begin. Not reacting to people or situations that provoke us is not an easy skill to develop. It takes practice and conviction that not reacting, not increasing the drama, doesn't mean we don't care. On the contrary, we are freed to show genuine love and care only when we can detach from the knee-jerk need to fix, solve, rescue, or control. Even the idea that someone else can make us feel happy (or beautiful or angry) or we them is an illusion, says Casey in this remarkable book. All our feelings come from within and we get to choose how to respond to life.
The meditations in this power-packed little book provide us the tools we need to practice letting go of the illusion that we can control anyone or anything beyond our selves. Casey teaches us to focus on finding our own balance point and recognizing how to get to it whenever we find ourselves tempted to rescue or enmesh.
©2010 Karen Casey (P)2012 Audible, Inc.
"Too Cold"
I'm sure it has a place for someone in need of being less codependent. But for myself I found this book cold and void of personal concern for others. The message of not letting yourself invade and get wrapped up in the drama where you really have no business is a good one. The fact is I never heard any message of being there for those in need and the joy you can bring to yourself and others by being a part of humanity. I must admit I did not listen to this entire book and perhaps missed a later side to it. It was to rigid and cold for me to hear in its entirety,
More feeling and compassion to fellow humans while still explaining how to have a balance and where to draw the line in your personal involvement. .
The voice sounded like a drill sergeant. More warmth.
I think it is better suited for co dependents. I had thought it was going to be more balanced and more deep point of view.