The wounds inflicted by an "unsafe" person can go deep. If you've ever been in a relationship where you were used, abused, or abandoned, then Safe People is for you. It will help you make wise choices in relationships from friendships to romance. You'll discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships. And you'll learn how to avoid repeating your own mistakes and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep. Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend share expert insights that will help you:
©1995 Henry Cloud and John Townsend (P)2009 Zondervan
I have listened to this book over and over again as it has really helped me to move forward from my most recent breakup. I was devasted by the breakup and it made me to be able to question my character decernment. I needed help and this book is like haveing a counsler in your back pocket, when you need it. I will use these principles to seek out a new relationship. Normally, I would have retreated from relationships but now I am not afraid to move forward and be open to finding the love i deserve. I will seek out safe people and become a safe person as well
The Faithful Traveler
Nota Bene: this book is written by Christian therapists who look at things (at least in this book) from a Christian point of view. That said, if you are a Christian, you will find this analysis exceedingly useful. If you are not a Christian, I would imagine that you could still find the book useful, although, you might get annoyed by the constant references to God and what God wants for our lives. It depends on your tolerance for that kind of talk, I think.
That said, I (as a Christian) found this book to be SO helpful, I have listened to it at least ten times since I bought it about a month ago. I will listen to a chapter, then listen again and again, taking notes and trying to remember the endless amounts of good advice and analysis provided.
This book is split into parts, with lots of lists (something I loved).
The first part discusses in detail the characteristics of Unsafe People.
The second part analyzes why we befriend Unsafe People.
The third part discusses the characteristics of Safe People, how to become one, and how to befriend them.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has trouble making and keeping friendships with people who make them feel good and happy, and who help them to be the best people they can be. You need this book if most of your friends are dysfunctional people (aren't we all) who persist in their dysfunction, instead of who seek to grow and move out of their harmful ways. Or for those who have simply given up on trying to make new friends because they have been let down so many times, they just don't see the point anymore.
This book is for you.
As for the reader, he does a fantastic job of reading this book, even going to the point of using different voices for other men, women, or children. It's actually quite endearing. He does a great job of capturing the emotion behind the author's words, but without being maudlin. Great job, reader!
I have listened to many audiobooks for learning about myself and others, this is by far up there with my top 3
This book should have been called Safe Relationships because it applies to any kind of relationship you might have in your life as well as the ones you are considering for the long term. Great book but I wish I had the hard copy to refer back to although this was easier to flip between the chapters than most.
The description of book should have at least noted that this book is based on the bible.
I can't believe the description of the book omitted the fact that this book is heavily based on the bible.
Although much of the information is valid, it is all delivered through scripture and religious dogma. For those of us whose main goal in life is to be ???good Christians??? this book is a little hard to get through. Bottom line: Highly ???spiritual??? Christians are good. All others, including those claiming to be ???religious??? Christians are bad.
Yes, because with a busy scheduled, I am able to get more time doing other things while listening.
Boundaries set to basis for this book on relationships with examples, which are necessary in getting the average person to understand to points made.
Understanding relationships which are not open to honesty show themselves as always positioning themselves superior or focusing all the attention on to themselves. Healthy relationship know how to receive each other as equals and yet remain with their separate identities and sustainable lives apart from each other.
This book is a must read for people who are humble, and willing to open themselves up to healthy relations directed by the Holy Spirit to the Glory of God and not man.
A potentially good book spoiled by the author's self indulgence by continually referencing the bible and 'the word of god'. Sadly if you are not a religuos person or atheist, then you will not relate to this book and find yourself rolling your eyes every 5 minutes, waiting for the narrator to get past the god reference and get to the advice bit.
I must say however, i have also read Necessary Endings, by one of the authors and thisis a completely different book. No religous connetotions adn very sound real world advice.
Constant reference to religion
he's OK a little bit old sounding.
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