Does this sound like someone you know?
If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, best-selling author Patricia Evans tackles the "controlling personality" and reveals how and why these people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior - even as they alienate others and often lose those they love.
Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern, or spell, be broken? Yes! says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur.
Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.
©2003 Patricia Evans (P)2012 Tantor
"A timely book that not only helps readers free themselves from controlling types but also seeks to explain the occurrence of verbal abuse, battering, stalking, harassment, hate crimes, gang violence, tyranny, terrorism, and territorial invasion." (Library Journal)
I plan to listen to this book three times in a row. I started out reading it and then discovered it was available here on audible. This book is a life saver! As I read and listened it made complete sense of my life. Absolutely everyone could benefit from listening to this book. We could begin to heal our lives, our families, our society, our world one person at a time!
Great narration. Nice voice. Excellent writing. Pitched right at you--no fast pitches, slow balls nor curve balls.
The Internet has made contact with other people who now can talk about this issue with each other much easier, this book has been like a book club -- community and a good read.
Gradually in a relationship one person can stop being somebody and become something -- a comforting constant. When this happens -- well, teddy bears don't have needs of their own, they are tools for solving problems, transitional objects, beloved parts of the people that love them.
Xe Sands had the perfect voice for this book.
It's easier to not become a comfort object to another person in the first place, but it's not that hard to stop the dynamics from continuing to progress, and the simple understanding of the dynamics stopped a lot of pain for me right away, and the changed stayed with me.
This is a great book to listen to either playing into the room so that everyone can hear, or, for a controlling person to read.
This book was interesting, but not as beneficial as expected. The first chapters (up to 14) focus on explaining what controlling people do and where they come from.
There is a lot of theoretical talk and little stories. Later in the book the story of the teddy bear cleared a lot of the misunderstanding, but it was only provided very late in the book.
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