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I am recommending this book to every couple I know, Married or not. I am seeing people's actions and reactions in a completely different light. I have read many books that are along the same lines but none of them has put it the way Mr Chapman did. The book is very clear and to the point. If you want the answer to "why am I really happy with someone for only 2 years?", this is the book for you. Even if you are not in a relationship, this book can help you understand your emotional needs and what needs were not met when you were a child. I believe it will help everyone and allow them gain an understanding of your emotional needs. I am very greatful for this book. Thank you Gary Chapman!
Although I LOVE the 5 love languages and think that Gary Chapman has a very engaging voice, this book was a waste of time and money for me. I bought it thinking it would go into more details specifically for men but found it to be a warmed over rehash of the 5 love languages book that I already have. So, if you have the 5 love languages, save your money on this book, it won't shed any new light for you. If you have never read the F.L.L. by all means do so.
Entrepreneur, marketer, Zen Buddhist.
Author Gary Chapman's concept about the 5 love languages is an enlightening insight that everybody should know about. It's that important and valuable.
The concept is straightforward. Here are the 5 love languages:
2. Quality time - enjoying doing things together.
3. Physical/touch (n.b., don't confuse this with sex).
4. Affirmation or compliments.
5. Service (i.e., doing things to help the other).
Everybody has a primary love language. If you express your love to your partner in this language, they will feel loved. If you express your love in another language, especially one they don't particularly value, they will not feel loved.
It's natural to treat your partner as you would wish to be treated. Hence, you are likely to express your love to your partner via your preferred love language. That's great if you share love languages. You have no need of the 5 love languages concept. If not, you have a problem that understanding this concept can help.
Sadly, the best way to learn about the 5 love languages is Gary Chapman the writer, and in this case, the reader too.
Chapman writes at and reads to the high school dropout level. On one hand, that's a great thing, because this message needs to get to the people who seldom read books. On the other hand, for those who are accustomed to reading books, the writing and reading are something akin to reading a non-fiction children's book. While it's politically correct to reposition material to men as a target audience -- this book is just a modification of his original 5 love languages book to speak directly to men -- it's not politically correct to reposition the book to a more literate target audience. That's unfortunate, because for that audience the way the book is written and read is not only annoying, it could make readers think that smart, well-educated folks wouldn't make mistakes in the love languages.
The author, who reads his own composition, has some good ideas about expressing love, in five major ways. He calls these ways, love languages, and proposes that everyone has one special language that they like to receive love in. I myself find that I like to receive love in all five ways, with no one way dominating. This is a must-read book for people educated in technical educations that left out any kind of emotional maturity, and then find their lives empty in their careers. You'll probably be sorry you didn't read this book earlier, but it is never too late to read, and to learn how to love in a mature understanding way.
This book is a couples life-saver. I read it first before I gave to my fiance. I wanted to see if what he is going to read, is what I am wanting, needing, and feeling, and it was. Dr. Chapman did a wonderful job of explaining what woman & men are striving for in their relationship. I would give it a 10 if I could!
Not only did the reader do a great job but the material was explained very well. I've had this book sitting in my house for around 16 years. I wish that I would have read it a long time ago. I'll be listening to this book a few more times.
Every time he connected to my feelings of our twenty year marriage. I look forward to the next twenty plus years!
The expressions that his voiced carried would have been hard to get from the book.
How to express love for other in ways that they will better appreciate.
This book is on my top five list of non-fiction books.
Always like the Audio better.
The "Ragamuffin Gospel" because "The Five Love Languages :Men's Editionis" is an example of grace in action.
Acts of service is a love language.
This book has made me a better husband and father.
I have and will recommend this audiobook! It doesn't just give principles or concepts [which is fine to do], it details real life examples of applying each love language as well as the results from its application!
The Love Dare. Both prescribe reasonable, Biblical methods of focusing thought and action toward others instead of self, and the Five Love Languages also helped me learn more about myself.
Hearing the author's voice made it seem real for me; as though I was receiving personal counseling from the author himself.
First, listening to, and observing family members and friends to determine each one's love language (kind of like Studying Her from "The Love Dare"), and, secondly, coming up with creative ways to speak it!
A single father with two teenage kids. I am looking forward to a bright new future.
You can relate to some of the examples Gary refers to so easily. Listening to the book you cannot help but feel you've been there before...
We tend to focus on the negative side of the relationship - Gary has a knack for turning negative situations into positive ones. I have now a pack full of suggestions I am eager to put into practice.
Being Australian it probably took a few minutes to get into his accent - some of the pronunciations are quite humorous, for example "hunting" is pronounced like "hunning" and this took a time to sort out!
Love me like a man
Very empowering book - as a divorcee and now in a beautiful new relationship, I cannot afford to make the same mistakes again. This book will help and empower me to make sure my partner gets the better of me.
For all people wanting a better understanding of human relations, couple or not, you must read it. My wife and I both read the book, and our relationship has improved tremendously. We did not have specific problems relating to each other, but since this book, we became even closer than before. Also, be aware than the principles in this book applies also in your relationships with everyone...
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