©2006 Shaunti Feldhahn; (P)2006 Oasis Audio, LLC.
First, I would like to state the I am a Christian and this book is written by a Christian and does use references to the Bible. That being said...I learned a lot about what men think and why. It talks about how important it is to a man to be a good provider and how much he worries about that.
After listening to only half of the book, I can see a difference in my husband already because of the changes I have made.
When you fall in love and get married, I believe, you would do anything for that person. One of those things should be to learn how to treat your spouse. This book a so insightful I wil be getting the other book for my husband. I haven't quite figured out how to give it to him...lol
I really enjoyed this video and was surprised to learn as much as I did about the male psyche! Over lunch with some friends, (ages 40, 50, and 63) they were as astonished at what I shared from this audiobook. It's not that it's new, we already thought we knew most of what this author shared. We just didn't REALLY "get it" completely. I'm not sure that I really "get it" even now, but it certainly has offered a paradigm shift in how I will relate to my son and husband.
I did get a new perspective on the teasing that goes on in my extended family and will definately approach that differently. Some of the information did make me shake my head and sigh "oh brother!" but if it's true, and since I love the men in my life very much, I'll at least experiment with this new information a bit!
If you are annoyed by any mention of God, then the author's references to faith and her prayer before the section on how men perceive their wives' efforts or lack thereof to take care of themselves will be a problem for you. For the rest of us, it's appropriate and natural (especially on that subject). This is not a religious lecture, the author mentions her faith in a conversational way, and while it's apparent her faith affects her analysis, it isn't obnoxious.
This author does a great job with her material, the pace is good, she's a great narrator and the material is humorous and interesting. I'll be listening twice....
I really wish I'd had this book a few years ago. What absolutely valuable information. I'll look at my guys a lot differently now.
This book should be titled "a married Christian woman's manual on her husband". Despite the promise that it would help women with husbands, sons, friends, brothers, etc, all of the information is presented totally in the context of Christian marriage. Which is ok, but the book should be presented as such, up front.
I am not a Christian and would not have purchased this book if I had known it's focus was so narrow. I did find some nuggets of value in it but I had to sort through the editorial bias to find it. Good grief, at one point she stops everything and prays!
it's probably a good book for devout Christian women, however I found that strong bias to be a distraction and felt like I had been decieved into buying it.
This book gave me a really different insight into the way men think, and how there is a real disconnect in the way that men and women communicate with each other. It helped me come to grips with the concept that what you say is not necessarily what others hear. It also helped me to cultivate thinking before I speak, and to reduce my compulsion to "help" too much. Which, this book made me realize, can also be construed as not having faith in my partner's or friend's abilities.
This book was so insightful. I commend Shaunti for approaching the subject so head on, yet with so much tact. It's easy to listen to because she reads it in a conversational manner, and the information she presents is so enlightening and covers such a wide variety of subjects that it is hard to stop listening. I truly feel like I understand men much better and have more confidence to support them in the way they need to be supported. Thank you Shaunti! I'll be recommending this book to my friends.
This is an interesting book in that it explores how men are different from women. I would have given it more stars, but the constant reference to prayer and the exhortation to "pray with your man to help him overcome his temptations" were a little over the top. I was flabbergasted when one chapter actually started out with a prayer that I, the reader, was presumed to join in.
This was the same sort of discomfort I feel when I find myself dining with acquaintances and all of a sudden they grab my hands in a prayer circle to thank the Lord for our food! Hello!! Not everyone wants to be forcibly brought into your faith!
This really hurt the writer's credibility, in my opinion.
Wow what a fantastic book, I gained so much insight and knowledge about my partner and answered alot of questions as to why my relationship wasn't working the way I wanted it to. Yes I understand that it's all generalised but everything I heard related to my man down to a tee! I feel like the book covered every single aspect of my relationship and the importance I play in making it work for him and in turn making it work for me.
Admittedly it is hard to hear a lot of the things and sometimes shook my head totally disagreeing but by about half way through my thinking had completely changed and I could understand a lot of the behaviors from my partner that had since seemed completely absurd and downright dumb. My partner is in the process of listening to 'For Men Only' and I've already seen some changes, he has noticed changes in me and couldn't be happier even though they are only small gestures, like wearing a skirt I've had that he loves but had buried in the draw and opted for shorts every time instead.
I recommend this to everyone, I'm passing it on to all my friends! Fantastic!!
After 30 years of marriage and trying to figure out why my husband reacted in a certain way to something I said or did, I now understand and can better communicate with him because of it. I've started to change things already and will continue to refer to this book for some good information.
Everything she said was right on point. She pointed out the obvious using great illustrations and leaves you feeling empowered.
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