Do women have sex simply to reproduce or display their affection? When University of Texas at Austin clinical psychologist Cindy M. Meston and evolutionary psychologist David M. Buss joined forces to investigate the underlying sexual motivations of women, what they found astonished them.
Through the voices of real women, Meston and Buss reveal the motivations that guide women's sexual decisions and explain the deep-seated psychology and biology that often unwittingly drive women's desires - sometimes in pursuit of health or pleasure, or sometimes for darker, disturbing reasons that a woman may not fully recognize. Drawing on more than a thousand intensive interviews conducted solely for the book, as well as their pioneering research on physiological response and evolutionary emotions, Why Women Have Sex uncovers an amazingly complex and nuanced portrait of female sexuality. They delve into the use of sex as a defensive tactic against a mate's infidelity (protection), as a ploy to boost self-confidence (status), as a barter for gifts or household chores (resource acquisition), or as a cure for a migraine headache (medication).
Why Women Have Sex stands as the richest and deepest psychological understanding of female sexuality yet achieved and promises to inform every woman's (and her partner's) awareness of her relationship to sex and her sexuality.
©2009 Cindy M. Meston and David M. Buss; (P)2009 Tantor Media
aimed at a female audience, but not overtly so. as a guy i had no trouble following the narrative, to my dismay. the biggest thing i got from this book was that most women seem to view sex as something they can do as much as something they want to do. a gift, a weapon, a token for trade, a duty, a show of mercy, a way of acting out... the title is very well worded. this book is not about what turns women on, though it does touch on that. but to women, it seems being turned on isn't really a prerequisite to having sex. if you're a male like me, expect to have your rico suave bubble busted. but enlightenment is like that sometimes. for me personally, ignorance is not bliss. i am glad i listened to this book.
I disagree with the previous reviewer completely. I found this not only an interesting book (for men and women), but it was well-written and perfectly narrated. Would highly recommend it. I learned a lot of things that now seem so obvious.
This book is exactly what the title says...it covers all the reasons women have sex. It does this by turning a scientific research study into a very entertaining book. You will finish the book with a more well rounded understanding if your a guy and if your a girl you may finally understand why you slept with some of the guys you did. It is not a how to sleep with women book (guys), but you can learn to understand women better and if you pay attention why women sleep with certain men for certain reasons (this book covers about all of them), you can pick what motivations you want to give woman and emulate that.
Overall a great book and a great narrative, I wish they reported all scientific research studies in this format!
This is a fairly interesting book, and I have learned much about feminine psychology, but I find this book a little repetitive, one wonders if the book cannot be make shorter.
Read this book because several women -- friends, girlfriends, spouse, etc. -- in my life have had issues with sex, and for some, are only now (in their 40's and 50's) really coming to terms with their sexuality. Wish I'd had this book fifteen years ago -- it is a well-researched and effectively reported discourse on the myriad emotions and physical needs that motivate sex... and the avoidance of sex. As the authors cover the subject, they include comments from the women they interviewed, offering a unique insight.
This book, along with Ian Koerner's "She Comes First" and Gail Sheehy's "Sex and the Seasoned Woman" form a great basis for both understanding sexual issues and positively, lovingly resolving those issues.
First, let me say how exellent the narrator is. She made a research-oriented book come to life and remain interesting all the way through.
The book had some unexpected, sometimes amusing, important, and always interesting findings that could be of benefit to everyone, women and men alike. It was very easy to listen to, and I would highly recommend it.
Enlightening and rich in details, the books only down-fall is that it seems to be written more for a female rather than a male audience. This is fine since us guys can extrapolate so much for the betterment of our relationships and answer the “What Do Women Want” riddle once and for all!
This book covers everything from pre historic life to migraine research. I guess you could say that everything has something to do with sex but only a small part of this book addresses why women (in particular) have sex. I can sum it up for you and say; curiosity, trade, loneliness, social value, manipulation (both ways) and to shut up a nagging partner... not to mention pleasure.
Women way learn that safe and consensual sex is beneficial for your health and well being. Men may learn that being a high ranking member of a social group and or having wealth will attract women. But keep in mind that allot of the information sited in this book was collected long ago or over a long period of time (ex. Kinsey Reports). Women and men's choices and opportunities are very different than they where fifty years ago.
Excellent, excellent book. I wish I had read this book before I got married. It's sort of like reading your wife or girlfriend's Cosmo when no one is looking.
Nothing has ever gotten me closer to understanding the behavior and feelings of women until this book. Although it is written about why women have sex (literally), there is so much here that explains so many behaviors.
I will never understand my wife completely. But this book answers (between the lines) a lof of "why" questions about her behavior and motivations. I admit I have used the information to benefit myself - but only because I understand and can adequately address her needs better. In that respect, she has benefitted equally.
It seems to have been written for those of us with an I.Q. under 85. There are endless superficial, shallow examples given. Evidently, the authors are ageist at best. The number of subjects over age 30 whose experiences were told totaled approximately 3. This must be due to how clever and interesting American women under age 28 are.
Irritation that I had invested my time in listening. There are several excellent books on areas related to this topic.
I hope to avoid books written for idiots in the future.
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