Dr. Phil McGraw: Life Code

I REALLY think this is a great book. I think EVERY woman (especially Southern) should read it, since we are taught to be polite over anything else. Be polite, but DO NOT GIVE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT. Very interesting points and I liked the spirit of the information. Highly recommended. Even though I think he mentions it WAY TOO much on his show.

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many of the relationship and self help classics but a big difference is the focus is not on getting along well with others as being wise to people who would wish to undermine you no matter how positive, helpful and essential good you are to them and others

Enjoyed listening to his voice and funny texas sayings. Listening to the book over and over helped the information stick. I enjoy listening while driving or working. It gives extra exposure that I wouldn't get by setting down to read.

Getting specific information on dealing with conflict and using it in my life and watching the person attempt to use many of the negative attacking behaviors toward me that I was not only prepared for but very clear on my desired outcome. The experience was the most positive I have ever had in dealing with a difficult person. I was totally prepared and clear on my desired outcome and did not get off course by their response. I feel more confident in my ability to deal better in the future with difficult people and catching situations immediately instead of letting it fester because "I cant believe they said or did that". Now I am more aware that "oh yes I can beleive they would be capable of saying or doing that" and I won't be caught unaware again.

I would just to recap on some key strategies

Made no opologies for puting your own outcomes above others

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Far too long was spent ( a whole chapter I think) on telling you what he was going to tell you and how important what he was going to impart was. I realise that this is part of the training model of Tell em what you are going to em, tell em, and then tell em what you told them. But I found it a annoying

Nothing really new here. Same popular topics, re-branded with Dr. Phil's own label. My guess, just a re-wrap of topics to work in tandem with Dr. Phil's television topics. All and all, good common sense .... read it here, or in any other self-help book.

Yes. Lots of information about the toxic people in our lives.

Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt.

Life is a competition and we have to work hard to stay in the game.

I will listen to this a second time.

Painfully, audible has formatted their reviews which makes writing a good review very difficult. But my three words would be TEDIOUS - McGraws introduction, which drags on and on and on, is very difficult to takeUSEFUL - McGraw resummarizes specialty reading for professionals by highlighting the antisocial and personality disordered individuals in terms non professionals can relate to - he calls them 'baiters'WORTHY - worth your time to listen even though you may be aware of some or much of the advice he dispenses

McGraw calls the antisocial personality disordered (narcissists, borderlines and sociopaths in professional terms accounting for up to 30% of the general population) BAITERS which refers to Backstabbers, Abusers, Imposters, Takers, Exploiters, Reckless- people who will hurt you in life. He describes them so that you might recognize them, which he calls the "tools" to recognize them - which he calls the “Evil Eight” (identifiers) so you can see them coming, and identifies their “Secret Playbook,” which contains the “Nefarious 15” tactics they use to exploit you and take what is yours mentally, physically, socially and professionally. McGraw then focuses on you (and your 'playbook'), which contains the “Sweet 16” tactics for winning in life and the real world.Basically, trust no one, recognize and understand the narcissistic and self serving deceit and manipulations of antisocially disordered people. McGraw never gives statistics but sub clinical antisocials account for at least 16-18% of the population and clinical antisocials about 8%, which is quite a large number of people. As McGraw said, you might be married to one, and you surely know several.McGraw then gives advice to 'get with it' and develop a positive goal oriented, competitively based series of personal goals for you to accomplish in life those things to maximize your own potential.

NO question about it - the intro drags and drags on with what this book is going to do for you. My advice - suffer through it by doing something else while you listen. When he gets serious then listen more carefully.

Most people have not had serious run ins with antisocially disordered people or have failed to recognize past problems as such. And most don't know that these problems are caused by deceitful, manipulative predatory personalities. Dr. Phil gives you and me everyday tools to recognize the antisocial BAITERS and concepts to avoid or deal with them effectively.

A freeform comment area might be a better means to relay the audible content than this self-limiting format. Also, except for the ruthless self promotion of the book in the beginning, which is tedious, McGraw is effective as a narrator emphasizing useful and relevant concepts as he presents them.

Yes. He offers a fresh outlook and unique action plans.

Still a little negative. He says he is just keeping it real. He may be right, I just hope not.

What he says about infidelity was wise.

I think it has. The Dr. Phil Show.

If you like this book, read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Covey. Dr. Phil borrowed heavily from him.

I liked his Texas charm and spin on things, but a lot of the book felt like it was added after he wrote the meat and potatoes of the book. That being said, the section on how to educate our children to spot and stay clear from baiters alone makes this book worth reading. I also liked how he talks about the constant negotiation of marriage and other relationships.

Yes. I love listening to his voice, he is a fantastic reader.

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definitely.ANd I did!

Thank you Dr. Phil. For caring so much about others. You are truly gifted. I wish there was a Dr. Phil when I was growing up.

If, as an Australian, you can get past the Americanisms, this is a great book with great advice. Really changed my thinking. Dr Phil is very easy to listen to. I went and bought the printed copy too.