From internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Payne comes an eloquent guide that seeks to help parents reclaim for their children the space and freedom that all kids need for their individuality to flourish.
©2009 Kim John Payne (P)2012 Tantor
"Brilliant, wise, informative, innovative, entertaining, and urgently needed... a doable plan for providing the kind of childhood kids desperately need today!" (Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., author of The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness)
Payne and Ross have created a thorough and well researched guideline for a stronger family life and happier kids. I wish I had read this book when my daughter was younger, but have started the simplicity steps they recommend and have already seen a big difference. It is so easy to overlook the small steps that P&R outline, but when presented with such convincing evidence, initiating them becomes easy. For example, my 8 year-old daughter's closet was stuffed with clothing I wasn't willing to part with due to its label or association, but my daughter didn't wear. Once I cleared away those clothes and narrowed down her choices, dressing herself became much easier. Also, we have decided to eliminate extra-curricular sports that hi-jack our weekends--one year of Mother's AND Father's day sacrificed to the soccer-league is enough. There are many points that P&R have so clearly made about over-stimulating and hyper-scheduling our children that I am happily listening this one through a second time.
I never realized that by providing my child with too much stuff; too many toys, books, options, that I might be creating a monster. The author's emphasis on reducing clutter, noise and getting rid of toys that offer little imaginative use is something that is invaluable information for any age child. That being said, the information does get a little redundant after awhile.
The narrator has a horrible monotonous voice was absolutely no affect or depth. His reading is completely flat and makes even compelling information a downer!
It's a shame that we need this advice, but we do. We have gotten so far away from fostering connection, creativity and curiosity in bring up our children that I think this book should be required reading/listening for all parents. This book is a wonderful reminder to de-clutter our children's environments, activities, and schedules so that they can get on with- well, being children and all the natural growth that requires.
I found the book to be very, very insightful,- in fact I'm on my second listen. If you're a parent, get this book.
One of the top, Im listening to it again for motivation.
It is simple, everyone can do it. However with companies out there spending billions to get us to buy all the crap, it's nice to have a little book to keep our minds on the right track,
Easy to listen to. His "s" sounds were a little loud, but I was listening for the info and content not for the readers voice.
Getting rid of all the clutter and stuff, and the child will be happy about the "anti-Christmas". I tried it and it was VERY true!
I love the message of this book, however, the author could have easily condensed it into a shorter book.
The author did a good job at providing real world examples to illustrate his concepts.
No. I would sometimes lose focus and found it to be somewhat drawn out.
My husband and I take care of my elderly, cancer sick, parents along with my 4 kids. This would work with any relationship. I can see it dramatically changing my relationships with everyone I know. I am recommending it to everyone especially those who are newly married. I couldn't stop listening to it. It made so much sense and its very practical. I feel like I have received a huge blessing in my life when I came across this. It had all the answers I needed to face the very real challenges in my day to day circumstances. It gave me permission to focus on the relationships I value and cut out the fat in my life that produces no fruit. I cannot wait to apply the principles that I believed I knew deep down all along. This put things into perspective a real vision of peace within a home even under extenuating circumstances like mine and its message is universal and transcends any families personal believe structures.
This is a great book for anyone who thinks they don't connect with their kids or don't have enough time with your kids!!
this book resonated well with my current family situation.
The inflection and melody of his voice seemed to appropriately match the story line.
Yes. The simplification of "Speaking Less" was poignant for me.
What made this book more interesting for me was the overlap and reinforcement of similar concepts in "The Paradox of Choice." I highly recommend that book as well.
The book is a bunch of nonsense and the author goes on and on about things without making any organized presentation. the examples are not very helpful. maybe you have to be desperate to really appreciate this book
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