Who is your teenager listening to? Teenagers today are bombarded by messages from their peers, the Internet, music, movies....the list goes on. As parents, you may wonder if your words mean anything at all. If so, take heart: all research indicates that the most significant influence on the life of a teenager comes from his or her parents. Yes—parents! In this updated volume, marriage and family expert Dr. Gary Chapman lays out the tools you need to communicate with your teenager. As Dr. Chapman states, “At the root of much teenage misbehavior is a teen’s empty love tank. I am not suggesting that parents do not love their teenagers; I am suggesting that thousands of teenagers do not feel that love. For most parents, it is not a matter of sincerity but rather lack of information on how to communicate love effectively on an emotional level.” Starting with the world in which your teenager lives, Dr. Chapman walks through the emotional needs of teenagers and how you can best express your love to them. You’ll learn how to identify your teenager’s love language, how to address their unique need for independence and responsibility, how to combat anger and set up boundaries, and how to best parent your teenager if you are a single parent or a blended family.
©2010 Gary Chapman (P)2010 Oasis
Yes. I read the book first, then ordered it in audio form as a gift to my son who has two teenagers. I knew he would nerver sit down and read it, but he would listen to it on his way to work.
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I found the author's stories of his and others' actual experiences with using the right love language with their teen helpful. Also, his suggestions about using these love languages at the end of each section gave us lots of ideas that were new to us. He also stressed how important it is to find the right love language for each individual teenager, and gave lots of help in how to do that.
I especially remember the author's explanation of the fragile ego of the teenager and how a seemingly insignificant criticism can be very destructive to their self image. This is a real eye-opener to parents and grandparents, and may explain some of the bad attitudes teens so easily slip into.
Perhaps too much time is spent at the beginning going through the many pressures and changes in our society that have a major effect in our teens lives. Most people are very much aware of these depressing issues in our everyday lives. I did not really want to plow through them all to get to the author's ideas on how to help teens.
First I chose to give it a 3 out of 5 stars since when you finally get to hear what the actual 5 Love Languages of Teens, the reason I purchased it, the content is valid and worth the time.
Second, and most dominant opinion was that this book was being delivered from the pulpit. I would say for 70% of the book the focus is on how as parents our best course of action when raising a teen is to lead THE most pious life. I'm sure that this tone and content is meant with the best intention. However, the bulk of my listen was done with my filtering my thoughts and simply forging ahead through until he got to the actual love language parts.
So again I chose to rate it a 3.
I found this book to be an eye opener in as much as I promised myself not to forget what it was like to be a teenager. Unfortunately the world has changed so much since then, that the stresses on teens as grown considerably beyond my own memories.
All of these improvements in our and their lives have come at a price. This book addresses the new problems as well as the old ones.
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