Lena wrote You're Lying! because no matter what your profession or life circumstances, you need the skills to take control of a situation, detect deception, and reveal the truth. While you probably won't ever have to interrogate a detainee who doesn't want to tell you about an upcoming terrorist attack - as Lena has - You're Lying! will help you deal with that salesperson trying to rip you off, the kid bullying your child who claims innocence, a cheating spouse, or a dissembling boss. As the adage says, knowledge is power.
Lena interrogated numerous members of Al Qaeda and the Taliban while stationed at Guantanamo Bay, Cuba, then taught those skills to Defense Department personnel for years afterward. Her ability to build rapport, accurately read body language, and employ effective questioning techniques led to numerous successes that saved American lives. You will also learn her easy-to-follow five-step program on how to accurately detect verbal (both spoken and written) and nonverbal deceptive tells, how to conduct an effective line of questioning, and what to do after you identify the lies we all face every day. Take the knowledge in You're Lying! and empower yourself.
©2015 Lena Sisco (P)2015 Gildan Media LLC
My two favorite topics are Baseball and Military History. But my favorite books of all time are Starship Troopers and Ready Player One.
I don't know where to begin this review... be positive first, right?
You will learn something by reading this book, I did. Ms. Sisco has captured many elements here and you can't not learn something. Application is a completely different story, but I'll get to that later.
Her "REBLE" acronym for helping her students remember the steps to "detect deception" is helpful and sound, but nothing novel other than the package itself. The best part of the book is that it compiles so many aspects of lie detection into one package, but that's also the problem.
She tacitly claims these tools are her own creation (e.g., "...something I like to call 'time-lining'...") when these tools are doctrine to every interrogator. She did not name them, much less develop them. She is in fact just promulgating tools of the trade that have been around for years, yet not once does she credit the military schoolhouse for her knowledge. She does claim she teaches it to her students, but never quantifies or qualifies 'her students' (are they students of her company or students when she was a military instructor, pertinent because again we don't know if it's her own program of instruction (POI) or the already established military one).
There are also the "case studies" (not the ones that she actually calls case studies, those are ridiculous, have no substance and are un-vetted examples not case studies), the famous cases that have already been overly analyzed by several other deception detection programs (therefore, again, nothing novel, but definitely safe to add her own opinion on since so many others already have). Of all the behavioral analysis completed about the Jonbenet Ramsey case, she wants to focus on their odd testimony to Larry King, but not juxtapose it with their baseline (because any previous baseline is null and void i.e., one is forever changed by such a traumatic event, guilty or not) or that of other parents who've had their children violently murdered, despite her championing of such comparisons. She also chose Jodi Arias as another archetype of deciphering deceptive tells; she does not bother to explain that trying to read tells in sociopaths is an act in futility, but persists despite it being another overly analyzed case study where her opinion isn't really standing out on a ledge.
Overall the book is good, despite my criticisms. I am also a military Human Intelligence Collector, but don't stake the entirety of my professional experience on one deployment to Guantanamo Bay; my experience crosses multiple deployments, countries, cultures, and people. Lie detection, like lying itself, is an art-form that takes a lifetime to master, not one book or whatever course she's plugging with her company. There is more value in, "How To Win Friends and Influence People." than this book. As Ms. Sisco readily admits, "the devil is in the details," and you get details by "being interested more so than interesting." Timelines, Control Questions and Repeat Questions are your most valuable tools, all of which are discussed in, 'You're Lying!' Applying these are far more difficult than what this author asserts because if applied too harshly, too often, or too obviously, you'll lose rapport and control of the situation. If your suspicions were right, you've now clued in your target; if wrong, you've lost your colleague/friend/asset.
This book was very straightforward, providing a lot of useful information on detecting deception. I wish the methods provided for "extracting the truth" contained more examples relevant to/ tailored for questioning a significant other or spouse rather than interrogating a witness or criminal. While I wouldn't want to deviate from the overall guidelines, techniques, & insight provided in this book, I do have a hard time believing any spouse would be willing to sit through such extensive questioning should the need arise.
However, I am still eager to implement what I've learned through reading this.
The way the writer presents some examples of lies. I listen to this audio with great interest.
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