• Women Who Love Too Much

  • When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change
  • By: Robin Norwood
  • Narrated by: Ellen Archer
  • Length: 10 hrs and 2 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (1,924 ratings)

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Women Who Love Too Much

By: Robin Norwood
Narrated by: Ellen Archer
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Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest, and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood.

Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This best-selling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are - but also gives a very specific program for recovery from the disease of loving too much.

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Offers recovery steps.

This should be the second book each codependent woman can read. The first is codependent no more. This book thought me 9 good practical steps to recovery. However the first step should be that you have decided that you don't want to be where you are anymore. Next learn about anxious attachment style . Stop trying to help the irresponsible people around you and become the most selfish woman ever. Then welcome yourself to your new happy life.

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Life-changing

I have read many of the great works of philosophy and literature of Western culture, but no book has had a greater impact on my practical life and on my ideas about what it is to be a woman than Women Who Love Too Much. I feel I have just been born and have a chance to live a completely different life, in which I will for the first time be able to put myself, and not some undeserving man, in first place. This is a must-read for all women, especially those of us who find our lives impaired by loving too much. I cannot think of a single girlfriend of mine who wouldn't benefit tremendously from this read. The audio version is terrific. I am about to start listening to it a second time to make sure the ideas stay fresh im my mind. I feel very grateful that this book found me and dread to think of what would have been of my life otherwise.

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Scratching my head

This book is basically a series of unrelated case studies of women who tend to put themselves into bad relationships. There are wildly different reasons why they do this, and wildly varying responses, all fit under the convenient heading of "women who love too much." You have to wait until the penultimate chapter to get any advice on how to change a bad pattern for yourself, and to save you a lot of time and agonized story-telling about a series of unfortunate events, I'll encapsulate the ending for you: Stop focusing on your man, and take care of yourself. Go to therapy; join some kind of support group to heal whatever childhood trauma makes you vulnerable to difficult personalities. If your man is good for you and you enjoy his company, he'll stick around; if not, you're better off without him. A good relationship is a relationship that makes you feel relaxed, comfortable, and capable of achieving true intimacy (and is probably less "exciting" and "passionate" than the ones you've had till now. Ultimately, the book put me off men, in general. In addition to being a catalogue of how women make mistakes choosing a man, it's also a catalogue of the ways in which men use women, treat them poorly, and behave in utterly callous ways towards them. And of course, like all things in life, it's always the woman who has to pick up the pieces and take care of herself. If only the world weren't such a patriarchy, and we women weren't told all our lives that we need a man to matter. What this book did for me was liberate me from thinking I ever need to put energy into a relationship. That's a good message, but I don't think you need to read 300 pages of nonsense to figure that out.

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Very very informative

I love this book!! AS a man who has been in a relationship with a woman who loves too much, and I myself loving too much, this book has helped me confirm the cycle, and gave multiple examples of how to stop the chaos, and start living my life, instead of what she wants, and for me to stop any form of manipulation. this book should be read by anyone, man or woman, that feels trapped and disgusted in their current relationships. I related to many of the people, though I never had substance abuse problems, or did anything unlawful. however the feelings and emotions expressed were identical to the sickness of Loving too much.

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Codependents Beware

If you are confused as to why your beloved isn’t able to see and appreciate all that you do for him and is not grateful for all the ways that you have shown him love and how much you have sacrificed for him then perhaps, like me, you may love too much. I thought surely that once through this (never ending) crisis that we would be happy and that eventually all that I have done would be enough to prove my loyalty and devotion and that my beloved would relax into my arms, look into my eyes with adoration and we would go hand in hand into our golden years together feeling proud of ourselves for all we have created in our lives, our family, our marriage, and with the gratification of each of us expressing our own unique gifts and talents with the admiration and support of the other. Except: that’s not how loving too much works. If instead you have fights that you seem to know are coming like dark clouds drifting towards you on a barren landscape and yet you cannot escape the pending storm or if you find yourself not wanting to ask if you can go somewhere or do something because of the criticism and lack of support from your partner, or if you are tired of anticipating others needs and realize yours aren’t being considered at all... maybe you are loving too much too. If you are, this book is for you. I’m not able live in denial any longer after reading this. So codependents, Beware! After reading this with an open mind, your life will change. You will find hope and direction and clarity and the sun will shine in your life and in your heart again!

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way more helpful than i thought it would be

i had no idea how much of an intrinsic problem it was for my whole perspective on relationships to be faulty. i recommend this book to anyone who tries so hard to be perfect for the man in your life and can never succeed. Who contines to try to fix an unfixable problem. Who tries to keep everyone happy in their life all of the time. This book helped me realize the patterns I have created and how to start acknowledging them and trying to get out of being stuck never being enough for someone else. good luck

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Life Altering!

My headline says it all. This book changed the way I look at everything.

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Beautifully done

This was a book that I will put into practice and revisit when needed. It caused me to really take a look at myself and my pattern of destructive relationships. Definitely life-changing for those women who are ready for recovery.

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Finally Understand Why I Hurt So Much

If you could sum up Women Who Love Too Much in three words, what would they be?

Thanks to this book, I know what I need to do to get help.

What other book might you compare Women Who Love Too Much to and why?

Any other books on codependency recovery

Which character – as performed by Ellen Archer – was your favorite?

No favoirte. All was good.

What did you learn from Women Who Love Too Much that you would use in your daily life?

Continue christian growth

Any additional comments?

I now have hope for a better future.

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game changer

book has been a significant to on helping me to understand myself and to have healthy relationships with the persons around me I truly enjoyed this and recommend it to a lot of people I know

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