Why You're Not Married... Yet

The Straight Talk You Need to Get the Relationship You Deserve

By: Tracy McMillan

Narrated by: Tracy McMillan

Length: 6 hrs and 6 mins

Publisher's summary

If you're looking to get married and you're not, there's most likely a very good reason: you. Not that you're a bad person - you're certainly not! It's just that you haven't yet become the woman you need to be in order to have the partnership you want. So how can you grow into someone who is ready to say "I do" and to attract the same in a mate?

You start with this book.

Based on her wildly popular Huffington Post article - one of the site's most-viewed of all time - Why You're Not Married . . . Yet dishes out straightforward, no-holds-barred practical and proven advice for women hoping to head down the aisle or just have a great relationship. With sisterly insight, razor-sharp wit, and refreshing candor, McMillan points out the things that might be in your blind spot: unhelpful attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs so easy to identify in others, but much more difficult to see in yourself. Then she shows you how to adjust them to get the relationship you deserve. Like a no-nonsense but loving best friend, McMillan meets you right where you are to help you get where you're going - with clarity and honesty. And she'll make you laugh out loud along the way.

More than just a relationship manual, Why You're Not Married . . . Yet will help you diagnose what's preventing you from getting what you want. Do any of these chapter headings sound familiar?

• You're a Bitch: How defensiveness and anger can hide behind a tough, take-charge exterior, and why being nice is never a sign of weakness.
• You're a Liar: How to stop lying to men - and get honest with yourself - about the kind of relationship you really want. It's the only way.
• You're Shallow: Being a woman who insists on a tall guy is no different from being a man who demands big boobs. Learn why you should let go of trying to get what you think you should have and focus on getting what you need.
• You're Selfish: The big secret about marriage: It's about giving something, not getting it. The other big secret: You will have to go first.

Why You're Not Married . . . Yet isn't so much about getting a husband as it is about shifting your perspective on being a wife. Here's a funny, insightful guide to becoming a more loving woman and creating a more loving marriage - even if you're already partnered. It's a book that will change your life and the way you think about relationships, and it may very well lead you down the aisle.

©2012 Tracy McMillan (P)2012 Random House Audio

Critic reviews

" Why You're Not Married . . . Yet is funny, smart, and so, so true. Equal parts BFF, boot-camp instructor, and relationship guru, Tracy McMillan will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships. This book is for every woman out there who wants to have a great marriage" (Ricki Lake)

"Tracy McMillan is a hero and visionary. Through her book I realized about myself things people I pay a lot of money have been trying to tell me for years: that I'm a bitch, a slut, a mess, and that I hate myself. She gives solutions on how to heal, grow, and get what you want in life in a funny, inspiring, personal and very rare way. This book is an empowering way to take control of your life and become the person you want to be. So basically, she shows you how to be the opposite of me." (Actress and comedian Whitney Cummings)

"As someone who has been married for twelve years, I love to give advice to my single girlfriends. Now, thanks to having read this book, I'm actually qualified to give it." (Heather McDonald, regular on Chelsea Lately and best-selling author of You'll Never Blue Ball in This Town Again)

Awesome book

Just as advertised, this is the advice and reflections for single women we need to hear but most people are afraid to tell us. Comprehensive in uncovering different reasons for why women who want to be married often aren’t. Seems geared to older 20 or younger 30 year olds, but most advice applicable to all women.
Some people stated annoyance by the reader’s voice. I thought it was appropriate for the book’s content, and kept listening interesting!
Would recommend to any single woman wondering why she can’t snag a man.

must listen

this is the BEST book about relationship advice and figuring out more about why I do what than ANY other book I have ever read or listened to. I cringed most of the way as I listened to what I have been doing - and really need to stop. I just met a fantastic man, and have already been following what I learned here from Tracy. EVERY woman should get this book, married or not. OUTSTANDING.

awesome

absolutely loved it....amazing educational and most importantly honest and straight up!!! even though was very humorous I enjoyed every bit of it

One listen through is not enough!

Would you consider the audio edition of Why You're Not Married... Yet to be better than the print version?

I think that either way a person gets the information in this book is worthwhile, however, I personally loved being able to hear the author read her own book and convey her thoughts and feelings as if she was your close friend.
This book is wonderful, there are so many "ah ha!" and "it makes so much sense now!" moments. I will be reading this book over again very soon. I feel that the information in this book is so important, because it teaches women to love themselves first-which sadly, many of us women do not do so well.
I love the idea of starting from within, and her straight-forward, caring and honest take on the motives and personality traits that are keeping us from being able to let love in is a tremendous step in the right direction!
This book should be read by so many more people, men and women-we all could use a little help letting love into our own hearts.

What about Tracy McMillan’s performance did you like?

There is something wonderful about having an author of a self-help book personally do the narration. It makes you feel more connected to the information and the author. It makes me want to have her on my speed dial and call her up when times get a little tricky.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I definitely did! But I also feel that by having to take time between listens gave me the opportunity to really think about each section and how it pertained to my life.

Any additional comments?

I definitely recommend this book to yourself, your friends and your loved ones!

Wow!

This book was an eye opener to a new way of viewing life. It is a MUST read. I will be reading again to take notes!

Well I got engaged 4 months after listening to this book

My hypnotherapist recommended I read this book because I kept “snapping at” my perfectly loving boyfriend along with other little bitchy things hindering my growth as a person and partner. I listen to this book and parts of this book frequently and I would recommend it to any person single or married. It really teaches to to be a good person and great message for every one

Second to the Holy Bible, best book I’ve ever read/listened to.

I love this book. This book is highly insightful, accurate, witty, and funny. God bless you Tracy McMillan!

A Bible for every single woman!

I wish I read this book before my first marriage lol. Author is bold honest and tells the truth we need to hear. It's fun to listen, has a lot of insightful messages and makes you laugh. Highly recommend it!

ABSOLUTELY AMAZING

This book is a must read.
I have read so many books on relationship but reading “Why You’re Not Married…..Yet”
Was extremely educational and eye opening for me.
Things that I was doing and I didn’t realize it.
Now I am going to do everything exactly as Ms. future Mrs. Tracy McMillian written on her book and she is pre-invited to my future wedding.

I love the part she mentioned/described the mangos as her fear walking up to the Mayan’s Pyramid to leave the basket there for her God to take control over. This is sooo like me with my fear in relationship..

I love the way the narrator read the book, it seems like she was talking to me. From the time I begin to listen to the book to the time I finish the book is was quite engaging, FUN and extremely educational.

Thank you Ms/Mrs. Tracy McMillan for taking the time to write this masterpiece- your book describes me 97%😊🙏🏼

I am looking forward to reading your next masterpiece book 📕

May God bless you and inspire you to share your knowledge with all your readers.
I would be honored if you accept my invitation to be at my wedding when I get married.


Blessed Be 🙏🏼😊

Respectfully
Mimi Love
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Great

I found this book to be very helpful and I really enjoyed it. Great way to go deeper into yourself