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The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond | [Patricia Evans]

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond

Almost everyone has heard of or knows someone who is part of a verbally abusive relationship - if they're not involved in one themselves. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation and understanding - it's not "all in your head" - and encouragement for your efforts to change the situation.
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Publisher's Summary

If you or someone you know answers "yes" to one or more of the following questions, this audiobook is required listening:

  • Does your partner seem irritated or angry at you several times a week?
  • Does he deny being angry when he clearly is?
  • Do your attempts to discuss feelings of pain or emotional distress leave you with the feeling that the issue has not been resolved?
  • Do you frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by his responses, as though you were each speaking a different language?

    Almost everyone has heard of or knows someone who is part of a verbally abusive relationship--if they're not involved in one themselves. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation and understanding--it's not "all in your head"--and encouragement for your efforts to change the situation.

    Author Patricia Evans explores the damaging effects of verbal abuse on children and the family, and offers valuable insight and recommendations to therapists, as well as those who seek therapeutic support.

    ©1996 Patricia Evans; (P)2008 Listen & Live Audio, Inc.

  • What the Critics Say

    "A ground-breaking book." (Newsweek)
    "This is a new day in America. The most important thing is to realize is that you don't deserve to be treated that way." (Oprah Winfrey)
    "A great, great book." (Sonya Friedman, CNN)

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      Ardis J. Durbin 05-06-09 Listener Since 2009
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      "Fantastic insight!"

      I could never say enough about Patricia Evans and her work in the field of verbal abuse. She understands it so fully and explains it so simply that the fog you had about it becomes a clear understanding that gives you the tools to go forward. She has helped me and countless others. I am sure you will enjoy this and take away a clearer mind on the subject, that by nature is extremely confusing and frustrating.

      10 of 10 people found this review helpful
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      Kim Bryan, TX, United States 01-02-12
      Kim Bryan, TX, United States 01-02-12 Member Since 2009
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      "Excellent book. Clear and easy to understand."
      Would you listen to The Verbally Abusive Relationship again? Why?

      I am a psychologist and was looking for a resource to recommend to my clients. The author presents the information clearly. This is a good resource for professionals and non-professionals. Yes, I will listen to this book again and discuss the concepts with my clients as they read it as well.


      3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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      Ron Halifax, NS, Canada 08-15-12
      Ron Halifax, NS, Canada 08-15-12
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      Where does The Verbally Abusive Relationship rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

      Helpful book as I seek help on the topic.


      What was one of the most memorable moments of The Verbally Abusive Relationship?

      It helped me to develop a language for the issues I face and realize I too can be verbally abusive.


      Any additional comments?

      As a man who lives with an abuser I was really disappointed that is was so one sided. Abusers and victims are both sexes but this book assumed that it was the male abusing every time which did get tiring. Over all a very helpful book. I would rate it a 7/10 and if the sexist issue was resolves a 9.5/10

      2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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      L. Phillips Houston, TX 09-20-10
      L. Phillips Houston, TX 09-20-10 Listener Since 2010

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      "Well done and helpful"

      This book is very enlightening on the subject. It helped me to have more equality in my relationship, and gave me the tools to put a stop to the verbal abuse I was subjected too.

      2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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      Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-12-09
      Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-12-09 Member Since 2009
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      "Helpful for both men and women"

      Although written from a woman's perspective, I consider the book to apply for both genders, and therefore useful for both. One needs to read and apply it with discernment as SOME of her advice can lead him/her to become verbally abusive, themselves. One the other hand I find many of her suggestions quite helpful. It tends to have a negative tone but... I do recommend this book to both men and women, single or married. Just make sure you do not allow yourself to be instigated to anger. Just stand your ground and try to differentiate yourself from the abuser.

      6 of 8 people found this review helpful
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      Bill Raleigh, NC, United States 11-29-13
      Bill Raleigh, NC, United States 11-29-13 Member Since 2013
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      "Insightful book"
      Where does The Verbally Abusive Relationship rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

      One of the best books I've listened to.


      What about Mary Kae Irvin’s performance did you like?

      Her voice is very engaging and easy to listen to.


      Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

      No. Needed time to digest materials.


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      Rachel North Bay, Ontario, Canada 08-31-10
      Rachel North Bay, Ontario, Canada 08-31-10
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      I really liked this book when I fist listened to it, because I was feeling down and could relate to a lot of what she wrote about how some men (and women) treat their partners. For that reason alone, I recommend it since it's a good place to start. I must say though that it's really negative - I mean, during and after listening to it I felt angry, frustrated and resentful towards my boyfriend about every little comment. Since listening to this book, I have read several other books about relationships that have helped me so much more than this book. I wanted to create a more loving, respectful and devoted relationship, and the best books for the women looking for this are "Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship", followed closely by "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", and thirdly by "The Surrendered Wife - A Woman's Spiritual Guide to True Intimacy with a Man". These books have a more positive outlook on how to influence your man to be a champion in your life, and in his own life. I can only speak from what I'm finding works for me in my relationship, and these other books are far more worth your time since at least they give you tools that will have a positive impact on your relationship.

      6 of 12 people found this review helpful
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      Frank Canadian Lakes, MI, United States 03-21-13
      Frank Canadian Lakes, MI, United States 03-21-13 Member Since 2007
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      "Poor attempt at reality!"
      What disappointed you about The Verbally Abusive Relationship?

      The author took a very delicate subject and used it for personal gain with no regard to being accurate or true.


      What could Patricia Evans have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

      Patricia Evans was all about convincing somebody not providing medical facts. A book about abuse should be more clinical...


      What didn’t you like about Mary Kae Irvin’s performance?

      She did a good job.


      If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from The Verbally Abusive Relationship?

      This book shouldn't have been published to begin with unless it was published as fiction.


      Any additional comments?

      I have listened to thousands of books and I must say this book ranks among the worst ever. A book like this can affect people’s lives because there is always the element of trust from a medical professional and this book was written for profit not to help anyone medically. This is the most one sided book I have ever read.

      0 of 3 people found this review helpful
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