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The Verbally Abusive Relationship Audiobook

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond

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Publisher's Summary

If you or someone you know answers "yes" to one or more of the following questions, this audiobook is required listening:

  • Does your partner seem irritated or angry at you several times a week?
  • Does he deny being angry when he clearly is?
  • Do your attempts to discuss feelings of pain or emotional distress leave you with the feeling that the issue has not been resolved?
  • Do you frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by his responses, as though you were each speaking a different language?

    Almost everyone has heard of or knows someone who is part of a verbally abusive relationship--if they're not involved in one themselves. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation and understanding--it's not "all in your head"--and encouragement for your efforts to change the situation.

    Author Patricia Evans explores the damaging effects of verbal abuse on children and the family, and offers valuable insight and recommendations to therapists, as well as those who seek therapeutic support.

    ©1996 Patricia Evans; (P)2008 Listen & Live Audio, Inc.

  • What the Critics Say

    "A ground-breaking book." (Newsweek)
    "This is a new day in America. The most important thing is to realize is that you don't deserve to be treated that way." (Oprah Winfrey)
    "A great, great book." (Sonya Friedman, CNN)

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      "Fantastic insight!"

      I could never say enough about Patricia Evans and her work in the field of verbal abuse. She understands it so fully and explains it so simply that the fog you had about it becomes a clear understanding that gives you the tools to go forward. She has helped me and countless others. I am sure you will enjoy this and take away a clearer mind on the subject, that by nature is extremely confusing and frustrating.

      11 of 11 people found this review helpful
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      Ron Halifax, NS, Canada 08-15-12
      Ron Halifax, NS, Canada 08-15-12
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      Where does The Verbally Abusive Relationship rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

      Helpful book as I seek help on the topic.


      What was one of the most memorable moments of The Verbally Abusive Relationship?

      It helped me to develop a language for the issues I face and realize I too can be verbally abusive.


      Any additional comments?

      As a man who lives with an abuser I was really disappointed that is was so one sided. Abusers and victims are both sexes but this book assumed that it was the male abusing every time which did get tiring. Over all a very helpful book. I would rate it a 7/10 and if the sexist issue was resolves a 9.5/10

      4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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      L. Phillips Houston, TX 09-20-10
      L. Phillips Houston, TX 09-20-10 Member Since 2015

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      "Well done and helpful"

      This book is very enlightening on the subject. It helped me to have more equality in my relationship, and gave me the tools to put a stop to the verbal abuse I was subjected too.

      2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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      Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-12-09
      Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-12-09 Member Since 2016
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      "Helpful for both men and women"

      Although written from a woman's perspective, I consider the book to apply for both genders, and therefore useful for both. One needs to read and apply it with discernment as SOME of her advice can lead him/her to become verbally abusive, themselves. One the other hand I find many of her suggestions quite helpful. It tends to have a negative tone but... I do recommend this book to both men and women, single or married. Just make sure you do not allow yourself to be instigated to anger. Just stand your ground and try to differentiate yourself from the abuser.

      7 of 9 people found this review helpful
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      Laura Spindola Lincoln, NE 08-24-15
      Laura Spindola Lincoln, NE 08-24-15 Member Since 2015

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      "This book validated me: I'm not crazy!"

      My mom shared this book with me after finding out I was in a verbally abusive relationship. It saved me. I don't know where I go from here, but I'm free to know I'm not wrong to have felt abused and I've started using the techniques in the book. To my surprise, it's working.

      1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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      Kim Bryan, TX, United States 01-02-12
      Kim Bryan, TX, United States 01-02-12 Member Since 2016
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      "Excellent book. Clear and easy to understand."
      Would you listen to The Verbally Abusive Relationship again? Why?

      I am a psychologist and was looking for a resource to recommend to my clients. The author presents the information clearly. This is a good resource for professionals and non-professionals. Yes, I will listen to this book again and discuss the concepts with my clients as they read it as well.


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      "everybody should read it."

      everyone has been either around this or involved in this. would help everyone understand how horrible it is.

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      Amazon Customer 10-22-16 Member Since 2016
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      "Great support while healing from abuse"

      This book helped me identify all the emotional abuse from my life. So happy I read this.

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      Alexandra Leighton 06-18-16 Member Since 2016
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      "Insightful and a little too long"

      I think it feels longer than it has to as a consequent of the narrator's monotonous presentation.

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      anita Dallas, texas, United States 04-21-16
      anita Dallas, texas, United States 04-21-16
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      "Eye opening"
      Would you consider the audio edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship to be better than the print version?

      This book really helped me realize what I was letting happen in my relationship and how to change things.


      What about Mary Kae Irvin’s performance did you like?

      Easy to understand and follow


      What did you learn from The Verbally Abusive Relationship that you would use in your daily life?

      That I do have control of how people treat me


      Any additional comments?

      If you feel like your are being verbally abused, by anyone- read this book

      0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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