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The Verbally Abusive Relationship Audiobook

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond

Almost everyone has heard of or knows someone who is part of a verbally abusive relationship - if they're not involved in one themselves. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation and understanding - it's not "all in your head" - and encouragement for your efforts to change the situation.
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Publisher's Summary

If you or someone you know answers "yes" to one or more of the following questions, this audiobook is required listening:

  • Does your partner seem irritated or angry at you several times a week?
  • Does he deny being angry when he clearly is?
  • Do your attempts to discuss feelings of pain or emotional distress leave you with the feeling that the issue has not been resolved?
  • Do you frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by his responses, as though you were each speaking a different language?

    Almost everyone has heard of or knows someone who is part of a verbally abusive relationship--if they're not involved in one themselves. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation and understanding--it's not "all in your head"--and encouragement for your efforts to change the situation.

    Author Patricia Evans explores the damaging effects of verbal abuse on children and the family, and offers valuable insight and recommendations to therapists, as well as those who seek therapeutic support.

    ©1996 Patricia Evans; (P)2008 Listen & Live Audio, Inc.

  • What the Critics Say

    "A ground-breaking book." (Newsweek)
    "This is a new day in America. The most important thing is to realize is that you don't deserve to be treated that way." (Oprah Winfrey)
    "A great, great book." (Sonya Friedman, CNN)

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      "Fantastic insight!"

      I could never say enough about Patricia Evans and her work in the field of verbal abuse. She understands it so fully and explains it so simply that the fog you had about it becomes a clear understanding that gives you the tools to go forward. She has helped me and countless others. I am sure you will enjoy this and take away a clearer mind on the subject, that by nature is extremely confusing and frustrating.

      10 of 10 people found this review helpful
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      Ron Halifax, NS, Canada 08-15-12
      Ron Halifax, NS, Canada 08-15-12
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      Where does The Verbally Abusive Relationship rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

      Helpful book as I seek help on the topic.


      What was one of the most memorable moments of The Verbally Abusive Relationship?

      It helped me to develop a language for the issues I face and realize I too can be verbally abusive.


      Any additional comments?

      As a man who lives with an abuser I was really disappointed that is was so one sided. Abusers and victims are both sexes but this book assumed that it was the male abusing every time which did get tiring. Over all a very helpful book. I would rate it a 7/10 and if the sexist issue was resolves a 9.5/10

      4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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      L. Phillips Houston, TX 09-20-10
      L. Phillips Houston, TX 09-20-10 Member Since 2015

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      "Well done and helpful"

      This book is very enlightening on the subject. It helped me to have more equality in my relationship, and gave me the tools to put a stop to the verbal abuse I was subjected too.

      2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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      Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-12-09
      Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-12-09 Member Since 2013
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      "Helpful for both men and women"

      Although written from a woman's perspective, I consider the book to apply for both genders, and therefore useful for both. One needs to read and apply it with discernment as SOME of her advice can lead him/her to become verbally abusive, themselves. One the other hand I find many of her suggestions quite helpful. It tends to have a negative tone but... I do recommend this book to both men and women, single or married. Just make sure you do not allow yourself to be instigated to anger. Just stand your ground and try to differentiate yourself from the abuser.

      7 of 9 people found this review helpful
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      Laura Spindola Lincoln, NE 08-24-15
      Laura Spindola Lincoln, NE 08-24-15 Member Since 2015

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      "This book validated me: I'm not crazy!"

      My mom shared this book with me after finding out I was in a verbally abusive relationship. It saved me. I don't know where I go from here, but I'm free to know I'm not wrong to have felt abused and I've started using the techniques in the book. To my surprise, it's working.

      1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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      Kim Bryan, TX, United States 01-02-12
      Kim Bryan, TX, United States 01-02-12 Member Since 2009
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      "Excellent book. Clear and easy to understand."
      Would you listen to The Verbally Abusive Relationship again? Why?

      I am a psychologist and was looking for a resource to recommend to my clients. The author presents the information clearly. This is a good resource for professionals and non-professionals. Yes, I will listen to this book again and discuss the concepts with my clients as they read it as well.


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      Jaime 11-07-15
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      "very validating!"

      This book was recommended by my therapist. I don't usually leave a review but this one has helped me so much, I would love to help another. I never thought I was in an verbally abusive relationship, until I left my ex 2.5 years ago. I've struggled with guilt, regret, questioning myself if I made the right choice, wishing I held on just a little more until it's consumed everything I have left. That's until I listened to this book. I am not alone. You are not alone. Everything I've felt, is normal and is part of "the process". 2 days after feeling the hurt and anger that comes from reading this book, I feel free again. This is the last step in affirming my decisions are validated and worth it. Take notes. I actually listened and just kept writing and writing and writing. that too was therapy. I found myself writing I, him, me...so I immediately related to everything she said and was very helpful! good luck to you I hope this review/book helps you like it did me :)

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      megg 10-11-15
      megg 10-11-15 Member Since 2013
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      "Great book, well done"

      I would recommend that both abuser and partner read this book as part of their therapy.

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      CV 08-27-15
      CV 08-27-15 Member Since 2015
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      "Only for women who are victims of abuse"

      Only for women who are victims of abuse. Many good points for women who are just beginning understanding being a victim of verbal abuse.

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      AMSH 06-27-15
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      "Disappointing"

      This book presents an oversimplified argument on the topic of verbal abuse. Some of author's remarks contradict other books/articles I have read. She mention's that:

      -Verbal abuse is caused by feelings of powerlessness and fear.
      The book "Why Does He Do That?" by Bancroft, however, traces the root of the issue to the abuser's thinking system.

      -The partner should defend herself by telling the abuser to "stop it."
      This unwise suggestion could be very dangerous as It might provoke the abuser to physically threaten or abuse the partner.

      Overall, Evans' faulty definitions and solutions coupled with her disorganized writing style were very disappointing to me. It is difficult for me to understand why my supposedly experienced therapist recommend this book to me.

      0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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