In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be positive all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F*ck positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f*cked, and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is - a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mind-set that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed by both academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited - "not everybody can be extraordinary; there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault". Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f*ck about, so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
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This was written well—though sometimes I found the anecdotal descriptions a little tedious or obvious.
The book is funny, direct, and for the most part, I agree with a lot of Mark Manson's ideas.
However, after listening to the book once, it seemed like his point was: "Your problems aren't that bad; don't be narcissistic; get over it." But there are some issues that are much more complicated than that—and the cause and/or result of all problems can't just be roped into selfishness, narcissism, and immaturity. Granted, these can be causes/results of behavior, but the view is limited.
In my opinion, this book is helpful for getting through the day to day minutiae and trivial problems we have in relationships and business, and perhaps not in-depth enough for those with more deep-seated issues or trauma.
All in all, this book is worth a read, if not for the entertainment value alone, but also for a crash course in how to not be a big baby about things that don't really matter in the long run. It's a good introduction into some older philosophical and religious concepts as well.
Somewhere in the initial chapters of the book he speaks of a woman who had false memories and how popular was throughout 1980s. This was a bit of a turn off for me because it was used to support his theory of people's certainty. The point that he was getting too is that our certainty can be misleading ..I thought that this was a poor example because most people can recall details from a sexual assault. I also thought that a person telling another not to be certain was wrong, because he had to be certain when he wrote this book.
I did enjoy the book though. I stopped giving a fuck about most things when I realized that it was draining my energy. That was why the title of the book caught my attention. I believe that there are a few good points but I wouldn't use this as a self help book. It is more like a decent conversation with someone who has different views. The one thing I absolutely agree with him about is forming your own values; not what's introduced to you, without questioning why, and how those values align with your life. If nothing else this book is entertaining. I painted a whole room while listening to it.
I loved this book. The problems Mark addresses are eerily similar to my own, which tells me they aren't unique (he even says so later on). It's a relief, to be honest. I found his blog randomly and decided his book was worth a listen. I wasn't disappointed. For anyone out there who's going through a hard time and doesn't know what to do, at least use your free credit if you have the membership to listen to this book. For the record, Roger Wayne did a brilliantly job narrating.
While most of what is said focuses on millennials it is however important for all of us in America today. Amazing clarity for why we act, as a society, the way we do.
I only found one chapter disagreeable but nevertheless enjoyed the entire read. (Listen)
Valuable, a lot of good points. Not a lot of empirical evidence to support his ideas but does site philosophers. Good food for thought but I wouldn't recommend taking it at its word, only because it is primarily based on the authors personal experience rather than research or education or any universal experience. Well written and I like the narrator.
I think this book well deserves to have both the print version in your shelf and the audio in your phone
There isn't a moment of boredom, but the last chapter is perfection.
When you choose a path, you choose the problems with it. Because there are always problems. Just try to get better problems. Choose the pain you want to suffer.
Mark Manson made a great work, and I think this book will really help anyone who dares to listen and get a slap in the face.
No F-cks Given
Who was my favorite character?.... What a stupid question.
Stop asking me stupid questions.
There are many "Core Values" that self help books help you find. Mark explains what his current Core Values are, which at first glance are quite unusual, then he explains them in a way that makes sense. I've listed out my core values before, but I now have to rethink them and possibly change them to better suit me after listening to this book.
The tone of the audio book, which was not recorded by him but I think the narrator did an excellent job, was very in line with the title of the book. I've read a lot of self help books and a lot of them overlap. When I first downloaded this one, I was hesitant to start it because I hate how all of them always start out by trying to capture the "I've been where you are before" stereotypes. From the get-go, the book is very entertaining. It packs in humor into an otherwise depressing subject. A lot of authors go for empathy when addressing serious problems such as "Worrying too Much." Mark jumps right into humor and sarcasm. It was packed full of useful information for somebody like me who worries too much about what others think. At the same time, he kept it entertaining so that I plan on listening to it again just for the humor and to let the information sink in again.
I loved the down- to-earth delivery of some deep and rich content. It left me with a mental picture some GF coins - where there's only so many things in life 'really' worth spending them on.
Good book. worth listening to. Good advice. Does go against some beliefs, but the author does give great points. I would recommend to the right person, not for everyone.
An entertaining book with substance and wonderful insight. The topics are thought provoking and serious but discussed with realistic situations, some humor, and honesty. I highly recommend!
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